09/13/2020
Therapy is hard but can be crucial in conflict resolution. Call me today to start being a healthier version of you!
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A lot of us begin as clients with the expectation that the therapist will be the expert, that they’ll speak (or help us find for ourselves) some magic words that must be uttered for us to heal, and that- like most professional relationships- there won’t be difficult discussions that engage conflict.
In fact, experiencing and then repairing miscommunications, disagreements, and ruptures is a key part of how works. See, how we respond to relational is a story uniquely wired in to each of our brains, and if we always do what we've always done, that wiring gets stronger- and if that story is making it hard for us to form supportive, satisfying relationships, that's a problem.
Good relational therapy makes room for emotionally charged conflict, and makes it safe for us to choose to stay, engage, and experiment with handling conflict differently. Doing so has a powerful ability to change our brains by giving us vividly emotional experiences that help rewrite old stories with new endings in a way that just learning about relationship skills can't- creating a greater capacity to form and maintain fulfilling relationships beyond therapy.
Get a poster/handout of this doodle via the link in my profile, or read the blog post for more of the science behind this concept.
