06/06/2026
As a doula, lactation counselor, and mom, you can imagine how many motherhood, breastfeeding, and parenting groups I’m part of on Facebook.
These groups can be wonderful places to find encouragement, resources, support, and a sense of community. But when it comes to questions that could affect the health and well-being of you or your baby, social media should not be your primary source of advice.
Recently, I saw a mom post:
“Help! I just fed my baby, my breast is still engorged, and my baby is screaming. What should I do?”
The responses she received included:
• “Just pump and give a bottle.”
• “Use a massager until something comes out.”
• “That happened to me once. It’s normal. It’ll go away in a few days.”
• “GO TO THE ER NOW!”
• “The baby probably isn’t getting any milk, you need to feed formula until this resolves.”
• “Your baby isn’t hungry. Just wait a few hours and try again.”
The problem? Without assessing mom and baby, nobody in that comment section could know which advice was appropriate.
Was baby able to transfer milk?
Was there a clogged duct?
Was there severe engorgement preventing a good latch?
Was baby frustrated by a fast letdown or a slow flow?
Was there something more serious going on?
How old was the baby?
Was mom experiencing pain or other symptoms?
Every breastfeeding journey is unique.
While online communities often have the best intentions, personal experiences are not the same as professional guidance. What worked for one family may not be safe or effective for another.
If you’re struggling with feeding, reach out to a qualified lactation professional who can evaluate your specific situation and help you create a plan that works for you and your baby. You deserve more than guesswork from strangers. ❤️
I am currently able to offer in person lactation support in home or hospital as well as virtual support.
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