08/28/2026
You did everything right. The degree, the career, the approval you worked so hard for. And somehow it still doesn't feel like enough.
If you grew up learning that love and belonging came with conditions β a look, a silence, a comparison to a cousin who scored higher β you may have learned to prove your worth before you learned to trust your own feelings.
In her latest post, Dr. Dorothy Moon writes about a pattern she sees often with Asian American clients: achievement that works less like ambition and more like safety. Perfectionism as armor. Saying no as something that feels physically unsafe. And the exhaustion that follows, the kind that doesn't make sense on paper.
She also writes about what actually helps β naming the rule you're operating under, practicing a small no, separating rest from earning, and going back to the child who first learned that worth was conditional.
If you're tired from a lifetime of proving yourself, that exhaustion makes sense. π
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