08/25/2021
🙌🏾Can I get an amen?👏🏻
Commenting on the size of another person's body, no matter the intent, just isn't helpful. Furthermore, it's inappropriate. None of your business.
Maybe they've put on weight, or they just exist in a larger body. Do you think that by bringing up their size, you'll help encourage them to lose weight? Quite the opposite, actually. You're more likely to encourage dieting behaviors, resulting in yo-yo weight cycling and weight increases. Increased feelings of shame. Guilt. Stress. Eating disorders (which run RAMPANT in people with larger bodies. I'm not just talking binge eating, but anorexia as well…the same behaviors that classify a thin person as anorexic are PRAISED in people with larger bodies. It's maddening).
Or maybe it's a person who has lost weight and you're commenting on how good they look. Wait, was there something wrong with them before they lost that weight? Maybe they didn't mean to lose weight and there's something seriously wrong with them. Maybe they've now developed such severe disordered eating or an eating disorder, and their relationship with food is at it's lowest-low. And maybe now that you've praised them for being in a thinner body, they're terrified of weight regain…which, btw, the MAJORITY of people experience.
You get where I'm going…I hope. Just don't do it. There are SO many other things you can comment on. Like how beautifully her shirt complements her eyes. Or how you look up to him for his dedication to xyz.
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