06/17/2026
After recently completing a seven-week course teaching others how to awaken and develop their own psychic abilities in a grounded, safe, and supported container, (The Remembering-Course replay will be available in July of 2026) I found myself facing a lesson that Spirit had been gently whispering and eventually shouting, for quite some time.
I needed to stop talking about self-care and start fully embodying it.
The irony wasn't lost on me.
Week after week, I taught my students about boundaries, energetic hygiene, capacity, containers, discernment, and the importance of tending to our own nervous systems. I reminded them that developing intuitive gifts isn't just about learning how to connect more deeply with Spirit, it's about learning how to stay deeply connected to yourself.
And yet somewhere along the way, I had drifted from my own advice.
Holding space in the unique way that I do is not something that comes with no cost.
Feeling, sensing, seeing, and experiencing the energy of others happens naturally for me. I don't have to think about it. I don't have to try. It simply flows.
For most of my life, it has.
When I sit with a client, I often feel their emotions, physical sensations, energetic patterns, and subconscious blocks within my own system. It allows me to guide healing in a profound way, but it also means that if I am not actively tending to myself, eventually my body, mind, and spirit begin sending me messages.
The interesting thing is that I don't always experience the effects immediately.
It's after the sessions.
After the courses.
After the busy seasons.
That's when the burnout begins to creep in.
Compassion fatigue.
Psychic fatigue.
Nervous system overload.
And yes, those things are real.
They impact every area of life that matters.
My family.
My children.
My marriage.
My health.
Even my clients.
Because when I am not prioritizing my own needs, listening to my inner compass, and carving out time for rest, reflection, grounding, and self-care, my system pays for it.
And eventually everyone around me pays for it too.
The Hidden Cost of Holding Space
Over the last decade, I have worked with an increasing number of therapists, counselors, nurses, medical professionals, social workers, coaches, bodyworkers, teachers, and wellness practitioners.
In other words, people who spend their lives holding space for everyone else's "stuff."
What I've noticed is that many of these incredible humans are operating within systems that ask far more of them than their nervous systems were ever designed to sustain.
Many therapists I work with carry caseloads that most spiritual practitioners would never dream of taking on.
Not because they aren't capable.
Not because they aren't amazing at what they do.
But because no human nervous system has infinite capacity.
Yet many helping professionals are expected to do more.
More clients.
More paperwork.
More documentation.
More red tape.
More emotional labor.
More energy.
And somehow, in the midst of all that, they are expected to maintain perfect mental, emotional, and physical health while helping others do the same.
The math simply doesn't add up.
The result?
Burnout.
Anxiety.
Depression.
Physical illness.
Emotional exhaustion.
Compassion fatigue.
Disconnection from purpose.
A nervous system that never truly gets to rest.
Read the full blog post on my website ⬇️ ⬇️ ⬇️
https://sapphiresoulwellness.com/blog/f/who-holds-space-for-the-space-holders
