08/31/2026
We learn the rules of being a “good girl” really early, and most of the time nobody actually sits us down and tells us what those rules are. We figure them out by paying attention. We notice what gets praised, what gets a reaction, what makes things easier and what parts of ourselves seem to create a little more friction.
Which is actually a pretty normal part of growing up. We’re learning how relationships work at the same time we’re learning who we are.
The funny part is nobody comes along when we’re 25, 35 or 45 and says, “Hey, you know all that information you collected when you were eight? You might want to check if any of it needs updating.”
So we keep going, and some of those old rules become so familiar that they just feel like personality.
And I want to be careful here, because I don’t think every lovely quality a woman has needs to be picked apart until we find a wound underneath it. You might genuinely love taking care of people. You might actually be fiercely independent. You may LIKE being the capable one.
I’m much more curious about whether you feel you have a choice in the matter.
If being helpful made you “good,” can you choose not to help without feeling like you’ve done something wrong? If you learned to handle everything yourself, can you still let someone show up for you? If keeping the peace became familiar, what happens when what you want creates a little friction?
That’s where we start getting to know the Good Girl rather than simply calling everything people pleasing.
And it’s exactly why I wanted an entire day for this.
On October 18th, we’re going to look at the rules we learned, where they came from, how they’ve followed us into adulthood and which ones we’re ready to stop living by. We’ll use conversation, education, somatic work, hypnosis, reflection and ritual to actually work with what we find rather than just talking about it.
And yes, at the end of the day, we’re giving the Good Girl an actual funeral. 🖤
The Good Girl Funeral
October 18th | 9–5 Central | Online
Six women | $250
Registration is open. Your chair is waiting. DM me to get the link.