Alyssa Boly

Alyssa Boly Love • Dating • Marriage • Faith
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04/17/2026

The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit. Proverbs 18:21

Comment or dm me “workshop” and I’ll send over a video I recorded to encourage you in this journey 🤍

03/30/2026

these 5 lessons led me to my husband ❤️‍🔥

1- God will ask you to do something big in obedient faith

2- God will invite you to know Him better

3- God will ask you to uphold your standards & morals

4- God will ask you to submit to His lead

5- God will ask you to care what He thinks more than what you or others think

❣️ready to meet the husband of your prayers?
The Wife Program is for you

Comment or Dm me “wife” and I’ll send you the info

03/24/2026

Unsure if it’s time to leave?

The Discern Relationship Clarity Guidebook is your first step.
It’ll help you confidently know whether to stay, heal, or leave.

Comment or DM me “discern” and I’ll send it over 🤍

‼️NOTE: this info is for dating/engaged relationships, not marriages 🙏🏽 as the advice from the Bible changes once married. If you’re married and looking for clarity, please comment or DM me “biblical marriage” and I’ll send you what I’ve compiled biblically.

03/20/2026

1️⃣ you’re submitted to God - you know it’s more worth it to follow His lead & have Him at the center than to force a relationship to work or make it happen by your own effort. Ecclesiastes 4:12

2️⃣ you have your own relationship with God - you’re not waiting for another person to give you a reason to be close to God; you know His voice in your life because you have a relationship with Him and spend time in the Word and in prayer with Him. John 15:4

3️⃣ you trust God’s will and know His heart is for you - you understand that marriage is a representation of God’s love for us, and that if you desire marriage, it is for you, and this you can trust the timing, pursue your purpose now, and not obsess about finding a spouse. Psalm 37:4-5

4️⃣ you live & date with biblical morals - you’re not waiting til you meet him to start living like a wife (or vice versa). You’re committed to God’s order and timing for healthy boundaries and honoring Him in dating. Proverbs 4:23

5️⃣ you understand God’s order for marriage - you’re not submitted to each other until marriage, but once married, you accept and respect the roles and order God created for a thriving marriage. Ephesians 5

6️⃣ you are living in active faith - you’re not hiding away begging God for your husband (or wife), but you’re also not trying to control everything. You’re sensitive to the Holy Spirit and when He says go, move, yes, leave etc- you do it! You’re living the adventure now. James 1:22

7️⃣ you speak biblical truth over yourself - you refuse to fall into the timelines, limits, expectations or lies of the world. You’re preparing now through your mindset, habits, friendships, relationships and lifestyle to be the wife (or husband) God has created to further show His glory and Kingdom and love on this earth. Romans 12:1-2

‼️NOTE: this is for single/dating/engaged relationships - not pre existing marriages 🙏🏽 If you’re married, comment or DM me “biblical marriage” and I’ll send you what I’ve compiled.

❣️ ready to take practical steps to prepare for marriage & meet your husband?
The Wife Material workshop is your first step

Just comment or dm me “workshop” and I’ll send it right over!

03/19/2026

You’re single. Love Jesus. You’ve asked and prayed and waited (& waited & waited…) but it’s still not happening.

Yet.

This is for a very specific woman: it’s time to increase your faith. 🫶🏽🙏🏽

In the Bible the word wait (often “qavah” in Hebrew) is a verb. It means “to wait, look for, hope, expect”. It does not mean passively wait around and beg, wishful that God has a husband for you but not believing it.

& for everyone who’s gonna say “but it might not be God’s will”.. if the desire is in your heart, marriage is for you. The Bible says in that a man who finds a wife finds a good thing. It says if your desire is to be with someone then you should marry. Marriage was the first union established by God. Marriage fosters family and kids, reflects the love of Christ, and represents beautiful things ordained by God. (If you don’t desire marriage that’s totally different, and Paul says it’s a good thing. Then this is not for you.)

So for those who still do ❣️ here’s what active faith can look like:
- pray expectantly, no ifs ands or buts, thanking God now for your husband in complete faith
- live your life, don’t put things off waiting for a guy to do them with or to give you the confidence to go for it
- obey God when you hear him, even if it’s big and scary (I.e. if He’s leading you to move, breakup, sell a house, buy a house, change churches, change friendships, start the biz, etc)

PS 💌 A few years ago God moved in my life in a big way. At 33 I went from dating to completely single to meeting my now husband in 4 months time.

In those 4 months God walked me through a journey that increased my faith and ultimately brought my husband to me.. no dating apps or dating around. I took everything God taught me in that journey and put it into a simple & strategic program.

If you’re ready to increase your faith,
to prepare for Kingdom level marriage now,
and to meet your husband-
the Wife program is for you.

Just comment or DM me “wife” and I’ll send you the invite 🤍

all i need 🙏🏽❣️🙌🏽💫
03/19/2026

all i need 🙏🏽❣️🙌🏽💫

03/18/2026

This is what happened when I stopped begging God out of fear and started declaring His truths in faith ❤️‍🔥

- I left an unhealthy and unaligned 2.5 year relationship at age 33, just 6 days after God asked me to (He showed me what could be possible if I chose to listen, but that it would be my choice and different path in life if I stayed)

- I got closer to God than ever before and began understanding the Kingdom and the voice of the Holy Spirit (this is something I didn’t ever understand before growing up in a more legalistic idea of religion)

- I went from totally single to meeting my now husband in 4 months time (we were friends for 2 months, then started dating and got married 11 months after we met)

It’s not about the timeline.
But God often moves quickly when we are aligned under Him, in faith, and equipped to receive, all for the purposes oh His glory moving through us on earth.

Here’s how I learned to pray:

Thank you Lord for my future husband, a masculine Godly man who will pursue me (Proverbs 18:22)

I know You have the perfect person for me that will love me well and I will be able to love him well, too (Ephesians 5:25-32)

Thank you that you love me, I surrender to You and know you want to give me the desires of my heart (Psalm 37:4)

In Jesus’ name, amen 🙏🏽

It’s important to pray like this so that you can come in agreement with heaven, with truth,
and align your heart to God’s purpose for your life & future marriage.

Declare it and rebuke doubt.
Ask only in faith.
And then live your life like you believe it.
(Matthew 21:21-22, Mark 11:22-25)

❣️ if you’re ready to increase your faith, align your prayers to your life, & meet your husband this year- the Wife Material workshop is your first step (it’s free!)

comment or DM me WORKSHOP and I’ll send it right over 🤍

03/17/2026

Just because it hasn’t happened yet, doesn’t mean it won’t 💫 just because you can’t see it yet, doesn’t mean it isn’t in the works 🤍

His timing is perfect 🙏🏽 keep hope and keep faith ❣️ Jesus loves you so so much 🙌🏽

03/16/2026

1️⃣ you carry a lot of emotional weight - you feel emotionally drained or even unsafe sharing your emotions, thoughts or feelings. your joy and smile have slowly weakened, and you experience “relationship anxiety “ often even after doing your own work in communication and healing your own issues. Proverbs 12:25

‼️NOTE: this info is for dating/engaged relationships, NOT marriages - the biblical advice changes in marriage. If you’re looking for marital clarity, comment or DM me “Biblical marriage” and I’ll send you what I’ve compiled biblically. 🙏🏽

2️⃣ you can’t shake a gut feeling and it’s affecting your trust - you’ve begun to notice he consistently breaks promises, tells small lies or omissions, and they’re adding up. Matthew 5:37

3️⃣ the relationship is imbalanced - you keep feeling like you “have to” manage or fix his problems, continually taking on responsibility that isn’t yours to hold. Ecclesiastes 4:9-10

4️⃣ you’re afraid to ask hard questions - in the back of your mind you know he avoids accountability. He may have demanded you don’t talk to anyone about issues you two have or refused to get insight from others. There’s a lot of blaming and victim mentality and little ownership. Proverbs 28:13

5️⃣ red flags are repeating from past relationships - you’ve noticed these unhealthy patterns showing up again, and have done your part to heal, but it’s still not changing anything in this relationship dynamic. 1 Corinthians 15:33

6️⃣ you feel held back in your growth, vision, dreams or goals - whether overly or subconsciously, something in you knows your big & long term desires and lifestyles are not aligned, as much as you wish and hope they were, you actually can’t even define his specific long term goals because you or he don’t even know what they are. You’re not as similar as you thought you were at first. Colossians 3:23

7️⃣ you long for peace and can’t seem to find it - you’re recognizing how much you crave and overemphasize small wins in the relationship, bc they’re typically
overshadowed by all the tension, fights, and disagreements. Philippians 4:7

❤️‍🔥 still unsure if it’s time to leave?
The DISCERN guide is for you-
It’ll help you determine confidently whether to stay, heal, or leave:

Comment or DM me DISCERN and I’ll send it over 🤍

03/13/2026

1️⃣ the relationship is unbalanced - you feel heavy carrying the emotional weight alone. you’re constantly supporting him, managing his moods, or fixing situations. This imbalance gets to heal before moving forward. (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10)

2️⃣ communication is questionable - your communication between each other feels incomplete, staggered, ir even unsafe. You avoid topics because you fear escalation or disappointment. (Ephesians 4:25)

3️⃣ fruit is lacking - you notice patterns in yourself that need breaking, which is great self reflection. But repeated jealousy, insecurity, or anxiety may be telling you internal healing comes first, so the relationship can last & thrive. (Romans 12:2)

4️⃣ your spirit needs confirmation -
your instinct right now is to pause, pray, reflect, and seek God’s wisdom instead of making impulsive choices or operating by wisdom of the world. (Philippians 4:6)

5️⃣ you know there’s a healthier relationship version of you - you feel God nudging you towards growth, spiritually, emotionally, relationally. He wants your heart aligned, not just the relationship “fixed.” (Psalm 37:23)

6️⃣ you’ve begun setting boundaries in your relationships - not just in dating but in all areas of life. Knowing what’s healthy for you becomes clearer even if the other person hasn’t changed. (Proverbs 4:23)

7️⃣ you’re learning true forgiveness - you’re noticing the need for forgiveness (for him, for yourself) and the freedom it brings. (Colossians 3:13)

❤️‍🔥 unsure if your relationship needs healing first?

The DISCERN guide is your first step. It’ll practically and spiritually guide you know whether to stay or leave, or to heal before making a decision.

Comment or DM me DISCERN and I’ll send it over 🤍

‼️NOTE: this info is for dating/engaged relationships, not marriages 🙏🏽 the biblical advice changes in marriage. If you’re married and looking for clarity, please comment or DM me BIBLICAL MARRIAGE and I’ll send you what I’ve compiled biblically.

03/11/2026

1️⃣ You can admit when you’re wrong - you acknowledge your mistakes and commit to change without it turning into a power struggle. At some point both of you can simply say, “I shouldn’t have handled that like that.” (Proverbs 28:13)

2️⃣ He respects your boundaries - and better yet, he has his own, and they’re all in alignment between the two of you and God. Whether it’s sexual boundaries, time boundaries, or emotional space, respect is mutual and boundaries are honored. (1 Corinthians 13:5)

3️⃣ You feel emotionally safe telling the truth - you never have to spend time or energy rehearsing your words, softening everything, or worrying how he will react if you’re honest about how something made you feel. There’s enough room for both of you and your feelings, thoughts, and emotions in the relationship. (Ephesians 4:15)

4️⃣ You see how he treats people who don’t necessarily benefit him , and it makes you respect him more - waiters, strangers, family members, the drive thru cashier, people who disagree with him… Character shows up most clearly in those interactions, and you like what you see. (Philippians 2:3)

5️⃣ Your values are aligned in practical ways - faith, money, lifestyle, children, priorities, politics, worldview, etc. are all things you talk about openly and you end up on the same page. Your visions for the future make sense together without forcing it. You’re not hoping those conversations will magically work themselves out later or that he’ll change his mind one day. You value each other’s views, thought process, and desires in these areas. (Amos 3:3)

6️⃣ disagreements are respectful - when you’re frustrated, neither of you resorts to insults, humiliation, or bringing up old wounds just to win. There is no fear of “punishment” if you respectfully give feedback or because there was conflict. Any conflict you have brings deeper understanding and stronger connection. (Romans 12:10)

7️⃣ The relationship is steady (not an emotional rollercoaster) - your connection is consistent. It’s based on love & trust, not fear & doubt. While chemistry and attraction are important, they’re not the driving factor- you have a shared purpose that marriage will only expand and strengthen. (1 Corinthians 14:33)

❤️‍🔥 still unsure if your relationship should move toward marriage?

The DISCERN guide is your first step.

Comment or DM me “discern” and I’ll send the info right over 🤍

‼️NOTE: this is for dating/engaged relationships - the biblical advice changes in marriage 🙏🏽 If you’re married, comment or DM me “biblical marriage” and I’ll send you what I’ve compiled.

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