06/11/2026
A dysregulated parent often struggles with moving through emotions with their children.
While I am not nearly perfect, I try to give our kids the space to move through emotions. What I have found is when given support and space to feel & express emotions they move through discomfort fairly quickly. It can be messy and time consuming to be the safety they need but its worth it in the long run.
As we moved from old to new we had some big feelings. Jace specifically was able to express how our honda CRV was all he's known. So many memories. He also was conflicted with feeling excited for the new. We honored the feelings & the need to take pictures and help in the process. And honestly both my husband and I were baffled by the flood of emotions. But allowed him what he needed. And honestly he moved through it quickly.
So many adults have not been given the gift of a safe space to process day to day emotions. My personal healing is very much rooted in being able to provide our kids emotional safety. So they can move through life with a little more ease & grace than many adults today.
Our nervous system plays a huge role in whether events in our life become traumatic. When we are provided safety for our emotions we can typically let go of the story and move forward. When we don't have safety in expression is when life events become trauma. And it cannot be healed until we are seen & heard within a safe container.
Our nervous system needs a sense of safety.
Its not always about being perfect but its about providing a sense of safety. This is where healing begins.
