05/26/2026
A recent male client said "you don't have to apologize." It caught me by surprise, as I never apologized.
I was about to acknowledge him, to congratulate him on the deep work he'd just done in our session.
But he jumped in before I could finish, so sure an apology was coming that he never arrived prepared to receive his praise. In a split second I had a million thoughts about how he was so used to a woman holding the apologetic role.
That's the spiritual meaning I keep sitting with: the apology was expected before it was ever offered, because that's the role so many of us have been conditioned to play.
I still apologize when it's true, but only when it's needed, not as a sympathy sponge. So I said, "Actually, I didn't apologize, I was about to share the deep work you did…" He fell silent.
I then shared my role in session, which is Soul-seeking insights and to hold sacred space for meaning and wisdom to rise. I shared my truth!!
Where are you apologizing for taking up space or holding back from your truth?