Lisa Whitenight, Counseling & Coaching

04/24/2025

01/26/2025

Celebrating 47 years around the sun with the best mocktails, delicious food and even better company! blessed to be stressed

10/09/2024

"The single biggest problem with communication is the illusion that it has taken place." -George Bernard Shaw

We often believe that we have communicated effectively, yet the message may not have been fully understood by the recipient.

When I became aware of this myself, I began noticing regularly how often I had the false perception that my message had been conveyed successfully, when in fact it had not.

Have you noticed this in your relationships? What would you attribute it to? I have some ideas and I would like to hear yours (If you get what I'm saying!)

07/10/2024

07/25/2019

“Change happens when the pain of staying the same is greater than the pain of change.”

Change actually creates physical discomfort—a physiological reaction in the body. And only if where we’re at becomes disagreeable enough to us are we willing to experience change. Pain is said to be the great motivator...
A mentor once told me during a yoga teacher training—get comfortable being uncomfortable. I always remember that. Because only through that discomfort are we able to grow and to change, to allow ourselves the opportunity to have a new experience. It’s ridiculously hard, and so worth it. We are not a self-made. It takes a Power, a design and a tribe. To get to live in joy and contentment, despite feelings and circumstances, is an almost unbelievable gift. To get to touch that, and to assist and share with others is quite miraculous.

06/21/2019

Conflict arises because something or someone is calling for change. It is necessary for our growth, though many of us avoid it or don’t know how to graciously move through it due to fear and lack of teaching. Using conflict as a platform to shift and deepen connection is like taking the exquisite risk and has many wonderful benefits.

Conflict is necessary for growth, but we often avoid it. Sometimes it’s because we feel emotionally insecure when we think about contradicting someone we care

05/17/2019

Struggling with mental health and finances? Therapy is one badass way to transform our lives. I’ll be offering sliding scale rates on Thursdays. If you could benefit from talking with someone, check me out below. Happy Mental Health Awareness Month! 💜

03/08/2019

Sometimes we avoid conflict because we don’t know how to deal with it, we have fear or we just don’t want to be bothered/add any more stress to our lives. And conflict is a natural part of life, that arises because change is being called for. When we avoid it, we also avoid opportunities—to grow, to deepen intimacy and connection, and to heal and be free. It’s toughest to practice with loved ones. With alternative dispute resolution, support, guidance and practice it can be super enriching.

12/14/2018

I love this...how often do you really want to connect yet are too afraid or unable? Feeling “stubborn” could signify a wound that needs healing, the need to feel seen/heard/understood/cared for. If we have these sticky places, they will block us from the freedom, and the connection, that our hearts (aka our inner little kids) desire. 💙

11/30/2018

Some of us have struggled with trying to convince others to change in order to save ourselves. And because we care and it hurts to see loved ones in pain. The problem is that this rarely works, and can destroy relationships. Love and acceptance heals. When people are allowed to be who and where they are, we are more motivated to allow ourselves to be bettered. When we’re scorned for our faults—and we are all imperfect, it can push people further into the brink of self-destruction. If we tend to our own garden we can be powerhouse examples and lighthouses for others who are struggling. We all have our own path and journey, and nobody else can walk it for us. You can’t save someone from their experience. When we try it can really hinder another’s growth—we increase the barrier. If this is something that you are currently facing, reach out and get support for yourself. We can only truly love and care for others when we can actually offer that nourishment to ourselves. I can assist you in exploring what is blocking you and show you how to communicate from your own experience. It’s an inside job first ♥️