08/26/2026
Men love to speak about women and their daddy issues & “fatherless” behavior yet are repeating the same cycles as the men they speak down on.
It’s the fact so many men were invalidated, neglected and abused (verbally, mentally, physically & relationally) as children and young men by their own mothers that when they meet a woman who truly loves and cares for them, they don’t know how to respond or act.
Some cheat because they simply don’t feel deserving of a good woman, doing what they know WILL eventually destroy their marriage because mama aint happy about it anyways!
Let’s be honest, if you grew up with only seeing women married to men who cheated or women who had babies with no commitment and/or women always getting cheated on (wives and mistresses), how far will you fall from the tree???
And if men praise their women and wives for doing the very things their mothers NEVER did, the mother or extended family gets defensive or starts attacking the partner.
This is why 9/10 when a MIL has an issue with her DIL, it’s more about feeling in power and control like she did with her son when he was little.
“Oh, I can’t get him to do what I want him to like I use to??? You’re the problem!”
They don’t see their son being able to speak up for himself as a good thing because then they will defy them!
Also they recognize the partners healing what THEY broke in their own child and can’t face it!
Abusive parents don’t change when you get older unless they do the work, their tactics just change and shift so they can still hit the buttons they installed in you without being held accountable!
The older you get, the more you DO understand why they are the way that they are, but also you can obviously choose to not be like that or do things the same way!
Some of the “cards” they were “dealt” was as a result of a choice and decision they made with their freewill, whether they KNEW for sure if it was wrong or not.
And if they didn’t know then, they sure do now!
Hold your elders accountable instead of allowing them to make you feel how you did when you were a child or worst treat your children and spouse like how they treated you
