05/19/2026
I am that mom.
I breastfed my son for 4 years.
We did baby-led weaning.
He had tongue tie releases at 5 days old and again at 9 months old.
We prioritized nasal breathing early on and have been mouth taping for a long time.
We’ve done continuous myofunctional therapy, bodywork, cranial work, and support from multiple angles.
We even started expansion when he was only 3 years old, followed later by a third tongue tie release.
And still… after expansion, his tonsils and adenoids remained so enlarged that we were referred to an ENT for surgical removal.
But through prayer, lymphatic drainage, and cranial work, we saw drainage improve, inflammation calm down, and his tonsils and adenoids significantly decreased in size. Surgery was no longer needed.
And yet… even after all of that, a sleep study still came back showing mild sleep apnea.
So now, years later, we are starting all over again with rapid palate expansion.
And what I want to tell the mom who feels discouraged after “doing everything right” is this:
It was all still worth it.
I do not regret any of it.
Sometimes we assume that if we do one thing “correctly,” it should prevent every future struggle. But airway health is deeply multifactorial. Sometimes improving a child’s airway journey means addressing layer after layer, season after season, and continuing to uncover pieces along the way.
That does not mean you failed.
It means you are paying attention.
You are advocating.
You are staying curious.
You are showing up for your child again and again.
And as long as you are making decisions with love, wisdom, prayer, and the best understanding you have in this moment, you are doing the right thing.
Even when the journey feels long, nothing you do for your child is in vain.
With much love,
Elene 💖