Arjan Makar Life and Relationship Coaching, 114 W. Buffalo Street, Ithaca, NY (2026)

09/04/2026

🔥 Relationship Rebel Hot Take!

Look forward to your first argument with a new love interest or friend.

Hear me out…

Most people are pleasant when everything around them is agreeable. But what happens when they’re challenged, disappointed, frustrated, or under stress? That’s when you get to see how they actually handle conflict.

If you’re looking for long-term relationships—ones built on support, mutual respect, trust, and genuine integration into your life—it’s important to choose people who are mature, emotionally steady, and capable of navigating life’s inevitable ups and downs.

So don’t just pay attention to how someone treats you when things are easy.

Pay attention to who they become when things get hard.

That first conflict might tell you more about the future of the relationship than the first hundred good days ever could.

08/27/2026

I was talking with some coaching colleagues about what a drag it is that the times in life when people could use coaching the most, are usually the times when financial resources are the lowest- job change, divorce, moving, etc.

That’s why I have a low income spot. It’s available now. $50/session. I ask that you commit to 6 sessions. Sessions are on the phone or zoom, so you don’t have to be local. Maybe you know someone I can help?

DM me if interested.

08/26/2026

I have learned processing grief is a relationship skill that nobody speaks about.

What are some other relationship skills no one is talking about?

08/14/2026

When my mother got married, She was leveraging a way out of her parent’s house. She wanted independence but women didn’t live alone. Marriage symbolized adulthood and having one’s own family and culturally sanctioned s*x.

My experience has been so very different. Growing up in the 70s and 80s I’ve had the benefit of feminists that have come before me. Women more often worked outside the home. Women had ambitions beyond marriage and children. And I , full of excitement, wanted a “conscious relationship”. A relationship where self awareness, spiritual connection and evolution were all valued. I’m not sure my mother knew what to think!

In my lifetime, the role of romantic relationships have changed so much. We look to them to fulfill so many needs- and even needs that are opposites! For example, we want our partner to be our sense of stability AND our playmate for spontaneous adventure. We are looking for a lover AND a best friend. We want someone to mirror our growing edges AND see the best in us.

There’s so much pressure on a romantic relationship that many people cannot commit. There’s so much responsibility on a relationship that some people make romance the center of their lives. We are all trying to make sense of what a romantic relationship means and requires of us in our age.

Whether you are in a great relationship, a struggling relationship, single, anxiously attached, avoidently attached, feeling hopeful, grieving an ex, just starting to date someone… wherever you are, know that you get to choose a perspective on romance that works for you. There is no right way. Know yourself and share yourself. We are on an adventure, a creative endeavor that centers around connection and love. It’s really quite beautiful.

And the perfect time to be a rebel! No more old scripts. No more default actions. Just authentic creative fulfilling love ❤️

Let’s meet 1:1 and get clear!

08/08/2026

Our Romantic Relationships are shifting.

The changes in the last 50 years have caused a shift in context. Marriages used to be based on social structure, economics, collaboration, and love. Today, our romantic relationships are based more on a sense of “who can I be myself with?” And not just that, but “what relationship structure best supports me and the other person?” And we also are looking deeply into “what exactly does it mean to love?”

It’s no wonder we are a little disoriented. We are on the forefront of a new paradigm! A landscape very different than our own mothers’ .A paradigm that asks us to know and trust ourselves in a way that we haven’t been taught to so we can bring our most authentic self to a relationship.

If you need a space to process this reality, ask yourself hard but meaningful questions and find your footing in the shifting ground, I’d love to support you! Free 1:1 consults
Send me a message

08/04/2026

What does it really mean to thrive in today’s world?
To thrive, we must be willing to illuminate what our culture tries to hide.
The things it deems less valuable than the endless pursuit of more, bigger, better, younger.
But true wholeness isn’t measured by your income, your output, or how happy you appear.
It lives in your integration.
In how aligned you are with your values.
In the depth and honesty of your relationships.
In the way people feel in your presence.
And it comes not only from what you think,
but from what your body knows.
Wisdom doesn’t live in the intellect alone...it lives in sensation, emotion, and embodied truth.
Thriving isn’t about perfection.
It’s about living fully...with awareness, courage, and connection.
🌿 If you’re ready to explore what thriving could feel like in your body and relationships, I’d love to support you.
📩 Reach out to learn more about somatic relationship coaching—or just to start the conversation.

06/16/2026

When I coach people, I often ask them what they are experiencing in relation to their challenge. Are they:
• Hoping and longing?
• Building and nurturing?
• Letting go and grieving?
I've come to think of these as the life cycle of a dream.
Many of us assume that growth should be linear, that once we identify what we want, we should be able to move steadily toward it. But life rarely works that way.
Sometimes we're dreaming and imagining possibilities. Sometimes we're actively tending what we've created. And sometimes we're facing the painful reality that something we deeply wanted isn't growing, isn't aligned, or simply isn't meant for this season of our lives.
Things can't always be in bloom.
It's hard to grow something when the soil isn't fertile, when there's no room for it to take root, or when we're pouring energy into something that cannot thrive under the current conditions.
Part of living a wholehearted life is acknowledging the dreams that never blossomed. Not because they were failures, but because they mattered. They shaped us. They taught us something. They deserve to be honored before we move on.
If you're navigating a relationship, life transition, or dream that feels stuck, it can be helpful to ask yourself: What season am I actually in?
And if you're not sure, that's exactly the kind of question coaching can help illuminate.
I work with people who are longing for clarity, navigating change, and learning to trust themselves through life's transitions. If you'd like support discerning what you're being called to nurture, release, or reimagine, reach out for a free chemistry session. I'd love to explore what's possible with you.

06/02/2026

I’ve hit another milestone in my coaching busines! And it’s Pride Month! 🌈

To celebrate, I’m giving away a 3-session coaching package valued at $375.

One of the things I admire most about the LGBTQ+ community is the way many people intentionally create relationships that reflect their values rather than simply following assumptions or social scripts. I often encourage my cisgender, heteros*xual clients to take inspiration from that approach: less assumption, more intention.

To enter the drawing, send me a message and answer this question:

What is one thing you would love to see change about modern romance?

I can’t wait to hear your thoughts. 💜

05/28/2026

I’ve been listening to a lot of podcasts where the topic is skepticism about the coaching industry. I think it’s well deserved. Being a coach is not regulated or even well defined. The term encompasses everything from advice and consulting to deep self development and awareness and working through trauma.
I am certified by the International Coaching Federation and have hundreds of hours of training and supervision. I will give you some advice, but, more importantly, I will help you listen to parts of yourself that are quieter than your inner critic and the prevailing voices of our culture. I will help you get outside the story of your challenge and find new ways of thinking and being. I will not gaslight you by telling you to just change your mindset. It’s not that simple. We look for a resonant perspective, which includes ALL of you, not just your positive thinking .
And because of my own personal values, I will point you towards your relationships as your greatest source of learning, support and fulfillment.
Blessings to you 🌈❤️🦋🌷✨

05/21/2026

You might be a Relationship Rebel if you’ve always felt like the cultural script for love was too small for your heart.
You might be a Relationship Rebel if you crave deep intimacy but refuse to abandon yourself to get it.
You might be a Relationship Rebel if you’re tired of performative romance and want relationships rooted in truth, freedom, devotion, honesty, and shared values instead.
You might be a Relationship Rebel if you no longer believe a romantic partner should be your everything.
You might be a Relationship Rebel if friendship, community, purpose, solitude, creativity, and autonomy matter just as much to you as partnership.
You might be a Relationship Rebel if you’re done chasing the fantasy of “falling” in love and are more interested in consciously creating love.
You might be a Relationship Rebel if you can hold two desires at once:
to deeply love another person…
and to fully belong to yourself.
And you might be a Relationship Rebel if you’re brave enough to question the stories about love that most people never examine.
I work with people who are ready to create relationships outside the tired old fairytale paradigm. Relationships with more honesty, more aliveness, more freedom, and more intention.
If you’re craving a radically more authentic way of loving, I’d love to support you through 1:1 coaching.

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