Arjan Makar Life and Relationship Coaching

06/02/2026

I’ve hit another milestone in my coaching busines! And it’s Pride Month! 🌈

To celebrate, I’m giving away a 3-session coaching package valued at $375.

One of the things I admire most about the LGBTQ+ community is the way many people intentionally create relationships that reflect their values rather than simply following assumptions or social scripts. I often encourage my cisgender, heterosexual clients to take inspiration from that approach: less assumption, more intention.

To enter the drawing, send me a message and answer this question:

What is one thing you would love to see change about modern romance?

I can’t wait to hear your thoughts. 💜

05/28/2026

I’ve been listening to a lot of podcasts where the topic is skepticism about the coaching industry. I think it’s well deserved. Being a coach is not regulated or even well defined. The term encompasses everything from advice and consulting to deep self development and awareness and working through trauma.
I am certified by the International Coaching Federation and have hundreds of hours of training and supervision. I will give you some advice, but, more importantly, I will help you listen to parts of yourself that are quieter than your inner critic and the prevailing voices of our culture. I will help you get outside the story of your challenge and find new ways of thinking and being. I will not gaslight you by telling you to just change your mindset. It’s not that simple. We look for a resonant perspective, which includes ALL of you, not just your positive thinking .
And because of my own personal values, I will point you towards your relationships as your greatest source of learning, support and fulfillment.
Blessings to you 🌈❤️🦋🌷✨

05/21/2026

You might be a Relationship Rebel if you’ve always felt like the cultural script for love was too small for your heart.
You might be a Relationship Rebel if you crave deep intimacy but refuse to abandon yourself to get it.
You might be a Relationship Rebel if you’re tired of performative romance and want relationships rooted in truth, freedom, devotion, honesty, and shared values instead.
You might be a Relationship Rebel if you no longer believe a romantic partner should be your everything.
You might be a Relationship Rebel if friendship, community, purpose, solitude, creativity, and autonomy matter just as much to you as partnership.
You might be a Relationship Rebel if you’re done chasing the fantasy of “falling” in love and are more interested in consciously creating love.
You might be a Relationship Rebel if you can hold two desires at once:
to deeply love another person…
and to fully belong to yourself.
And you might be a Relationship Rebel if you’re brave enough to question the stories about love that most people never examine.
I work with people who are ready to create relationships outside the tired old fairytale paradigm. Relationships with more honesty, more aliveness, more freedom, and more intention.
If you’re craving a radically more authentic way of loving, I’d love to support you through 1:1 coaching.

05/18/2026

Relationship Rebel:

Someone who refuses to abandon themselves in the name of love.

Who craves deep partnership but doesn’t use romance to fill the void of not knowing who they are.

Who honors autonomy not as avoidance, but as the foundation for authentic connection.

Who can fiercely respect another person’s needs without betraying their own.

Who keeps their heart radically open while having the discernment to protect it.

Who understands that intimacy is not possession, sacrifice, or emotional fusion.

A Relationship Rebel lives in the tension between freedom and devotion.
Between individuality and interdependence.
Between soft heart and strong spine.

Not choosing self over love.
Not choosing love over self.

Choosing relationships where both people get to fully exist.

04/28/2026

Gotta love the paradoxes of life. After years of supporting people through all kinds of relationship challenges-especially romantic ones-I’m seeing something surprising actually create the most freedom and fulfillment (particularly for women): decentering romance altogether.
I have deep respect for the courageous hearts willing to question the myth of “big fairytale romance” and choose a path of love that’s rooted in their own truth. The ones who are no longer measuring their worth by relationship status. The ones building rich, meaningful lives-nourished by friendship, purpose, creativity, and connection that isn’t confined to romance. And maybe most powerful of all… those who are stepping out of the cultural script without becoming cynical about love itself.
If something in you is ready to redefine what love and relationships get to look like in your life, and you want support untangling old narratives, reconnecting to your own inner knowing, and building something that actually feels aligned, I’d love to work with you. I offer 1:1 coaching for people who are ready to step into a more honest, expansive, and fulfilling experience of love. Reach out to me to start the conversation.
Photo Credit: Margo Polikoff

04/14/2026

What makes somatic coaching so powerful is its focus on embodiment. In a culture that prioritizes intellect, many of us become disconnected from our own bodies,only tuning in when something intense or physical demands our attention. The truth is, most people already know what they need to do. We’re surrounded by information and insight. But knowing isn’t the same as living it.

Real change doesn’t come from understanding alone. It comes from integration. From letting that knowledge settle into your body, shape your instincts, and guide your actions. It’s about allowing your heart to translate what your mind understands, and letting that wisdom move through you in a way that creates lasting transformation.

If you’re feeling stuck, whether in your relationships or in your life, it may not be because you don’t know what to do, but because it hasn’t fully landed yet.

If this resonates, I invite you to reach out. Let’s explore what it would look like for you to not just understand change, but to truly embody it.

04/08/2026

There’s a quiet longing many of us carry for a new kind of romance—one that honors both our freedom and our desire to deeply belong. But in today’s world, that longing often gets lost in translation. Women are finding their voices, rising into deeper self-trust and no longer willing to abandon themselves for love. At the same time, many men are feeling unmoored—uncertain of how to meet this moment, and unsure of where they fit. Somewhere in that space, connection breaks down. The polarity, the mystery, the tenderness we crave can feel harder to access. I feel this deeply and it’s why I do this work.
My coaching is rooted in a devotion to reimagining what romance can be. Not something we analyze to death or protect ourselves from-but something we learn to co-create with presence, courage, and emotional honesty. Together, we move beyond surface-level patterns and into a more embodied way of relating. A way where you can recognize your “full-body yes,” stay anchored in your truth, and open your heart without losing yourself. This is about learning to hold the paradox: to be both آindependent and devoted, expansive and deeply connected.
If you feel that longing too-if you know love can be more alive, more soul-nourishing than what you’ve experienced-I invite you to step into this work with me 1:1 for deep, personalized support. Together, we can begin to shape a new vision of romance-one that truly meets the moment, and honors the depth of what your heart is asking for. ❤️

03/18/2026

Choosing not to settle is one of the deepest expressions of self-love. It’s rarely about having standards that are too high. It’s about knowing your worth. It’s the quiet clarity of wanting a partner who truly enhances your life, who shares your values, and who never leaves you questioning where you stand.

It’s a message you send to yourself at the soul level: I’ve got me. I will take care of my heart. I will wait for something that feels aligned—not just in my mind, but in my body and spirit. From that place, you naturally call in more. Not from force, but from standing fully in love instead of fear.

And yes, it can feel lonely at times, waiting for a love that feels right in your life, your heart, and your nervous system.

You don’t have to navigate that space alone. I’m here to support you. Let’s talk.

02/20/2026

One of the great paradoxes of modern love is this:
How do we stay true to ourselves while also allowing ourselves to be deeply shaped by connection?

If we grip too tightly to our individuality, we struggle to bond.
If we lean in with all our weight, we risk self-betrayal.

Those with avoidant attachment fear losing themselves.
Those with anxious attachment fear losing the relationship.

And most of us? We oscillate somewhere in between.

But here’s the good news: we don’t have to master this perfectly. Love is not a performance. It’s a practice. A living, breathing practice of staying connected to our own heart while opening to someone else’s.

We are breaking out of old paradigms of romance — the codependency, the self-abandonment, the silent resentment that once masqueraded as devotion. And yet, without those old scripts, it can feel disorienting. How do we stay rooted in ourselves and responsive to another? How do we know when we are compromising in a healthy way — and when we are betraying ourselves?

The disconnection that happens when we override our own truth is something The Avett Brothers sing about so poignantly — and in their song, I Go To My Heart, they are repairing the relationship between an individual and their own heart after self betrayal.

“I go to my heart, my knees
And im begging darling please
I will never stray from you like that again”

It’s a love song to his own heart.

If you are navigating this edge — wanting deeper connection without losing who you are — you don’t have to figure it out alone.

This is the heart of the work I do in 1:1 coaching.

Together, we slow it down.
We untangle attachment patterns.
We strengthen your connection to your own inner knowing.
And we build the capacity to create intimacy that feels secure, alive, and self-honoring.

If you’re ready to practice a new way of loving — one where you don’t have to disappear to belong — I’d love to walk alongside you.

Reach out to schedule a 1:1 session. Let’s build love that includes all of you.

"I Go To My Heart" by The Avett Brothers off of their newest album, 'The Third Gleam.''The Third Gleam' now available everywhere: https://found.ee/thethirdgl...

02/16/2026

This Joni Mitchell song has always spoken to me. It captures one of the central paradoxes of modern love—the longing for both freedom and security. The desire for love to feel like an adventure and, at the same time, a safe haven.
For the gypsy souls, the artists, the free spirits, tethering yourself to another can feel deeply vulnerable. It can stir fears of losing yourself, of being contained or constrained. And for the more grounded among us, allowing ourselves—or our partners—the freedom to roam can feel just as scary. We worry that if someone flies too far, something might keep them from coming back.
Yet the deepest, most nourishing relationships ask us to hold both truths at once: autonomy and devotion, movement and grounding, wings and roots.
If you feel called to explore this balance—learning how to stay true to yourself while deeply bonding with another—I’d love to connect. I’ve helped many people tune into their own inner wisdom and discover a way to feel both connected and free.
Reach out to work with me 1:1, or join me in my Relationship Alchemy Women’s Group Coaching Online, where we explore these themes together in a supportive, transformative space.
"In search of love and music, my whole life has been
Illumination, corruption and diving, diving, diving, diving
Diving down to pick up on every shiny thing
Just like that black crow flying in a blue sky"

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