Dr. Lori Davis

Dr. Lori Davis Based in Ithaca, NY and providing services worldwide

Dr. Lori Davis is a NP | Certified Sex Counselor | Intimacy & Relationship Coach who helps individuals and couples navigate desire, sexual health, and intimacy. I am a clinical sexologist who combines my experience as a nurse practitioner in sexual medicine with advanced training as a certified sex counselor to help folks who feel stuck in their sex lives to get tuned in and turned on again. I spe

cialize in helping otherwise loving couples who can't seem to make their sex life work to create a sexual groove that works for them.

05/23/2026

Talking about s*x is hard. Trying something new is hard… at first. Feeling awkward might be a sign that you’re headed in the right direction. Keep going. 😮‍💨

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Hi. I’m Dr. Lori Davis.I’m a nurse practitioner and s*x counselor. And I think about desire and intimacy…a lot.Specifica...
05/19/2026

Hi. I’m Dr. Lori Davis.

I’m a nurse practitioner and s*x counselor. And I think about desire and intimacy…a lot.

Specifically, what happens in relationships when one person wants more s*x than the other. Which is most relationships, at some point.

Not broken couples. Not couples who don’t love each other. Usually the opposite.

I’ve been doing this work for a while. Writing about it, teaching it, sitting with people in it. Now I’m showing up here too.

Glad you found me.

The descriptions make responsive desire sound so peaceful. You see the clean, cyclical diagrams. You find out you aren’t...
05/19/2026

The descriptions make responsive desire sound so peaceful. You see the clean, cyclical diagrams. You find out you aren’t “broken” or suffering from a permanently dead libido, and you feel a massive wave of intellectual relief.

But then your partner reaches for you. Instead of starting at a peaceful, blank-slate “neutral,” your body instantly tightens. Your jaw clenches. Your mind immediately flashes to the worst version of how the night ends. You find yourself navigating an agonizing tug-of-war between a part of you that wants to want it, and a part of you that is completely shut down.

If simply understanding the definition of responsive desire was the cure, you wouldn’t still be feeling so stuck.

The missing piece isn’t a generic diagram. It’s understanding why the cycle turns into a knot for you, specifically. It’s learning how to navigate the physical bracing, the hidden pressure of the desire gap, and the deep loneliness of carrying this negotiation entirely on your own.

I created a free, 6-day email guide to help you untangle the knot of responsive desire. It looks past the standard textbook definitions to explore what is actually happening in your skin and your relationship when intimacy gets hard—and how to finally start connecting for real.

Let’s look at what is really going on. Together. Link in bio.





05/10/2026

If you know exactly how long it has been, the S*x Clock may already be running.

One person is counting up.

How many days has it been?
How many hints?
How many times have I been turned down?

The other is counting down.

How long until the pressure starts again?
How do I avoid the conversation?
How do I get a little more time?

Same clock.
Opposite directions.

And once the S*x Clock is running, time itself starts to feel like the problem.

Not desire.
Not connection.
Just: how long has it been?

When sx starts feeling like something that needs to happen, desire usually gets harder, not easier.

Because nothing about a ticking time bomb has ever made anyone feel safer, closer, or more open to intimacy.

👉🏻 If this feels familiar, start with the free 6-Day Mismatched Desire Reset through the link in bio.

It helps you understand the tracking, pressure, and meaning underneath the S*x, so the relationship stops being measured by how long it has been.



[Sx Clock, mismatched desire, desire gap, intimacy coaching, sxual pressure, long-term relationships, s*x counseling, relationship dynamics, desire patterns, intimacy]

I am thrilled that the Relational Life Foundation’s Community Conversation Series on July 22nd at 12pm PT/3PM ET is fast...
07/19/2024

I am thrilled that the Relational Life Foundation’s Community Conversation Series on July 22nd at 12pm PT/3PM ET is fast approaching! The event will delve into the topic of Embodied Liberation: Exploring Pleasure as a Guide to Relational Health And Social Justice, hosted by S*xologist and Relational Specialist Lori Davis, alongside guest panelists Cyndi Darnell, Goody Howard, and Michele Lisenbury Christensen.

This conversation aims to highlight the significance of pleasure in RLT and examine how pleasure can serve as a compass for relational well-being. It will also tackle the concept of pleasure as a political force, emphasizing the importance of embracing our erotic selves as a liberating and integral step towards diversity, equity, and inclusion.

Whether you are a therapist or not, this event is open to everyone for free if you join live. Are you interested in exploring the transformative power of pleasure with us? Secure your spot by registering today!

https://www.relationallifefoundation.org/embodied-liberation.html



Cyndi Darnell
Relational Life Foundation
Terry Real - Relational Life Institute
S*xologist Goody Howard

I am thrilled to host the Relational Life Foundation’s upcoming Community Conversation Series on July 22nd at 12pm PT/3P...
07/15/2024

I am thrilled to host the Relational Life Foundation’s upcoming Community Conversation Series on July 22nd at 12pm PT/3PM ET! Join us for a deep dive into "Embodied Liberation: Exploring Pleasure as a Guide to Relational Health And Social Justice" with esteemed guest panelists Cyndi Darnell, Goody Howard, and Michele Lisenbury Christensen.

This event aims to spotlight the significance of pleasure in Relational Life Therapy and examine its potential as a compass for relational well-being. Discover how pleasure can play a pivotal role in our pursuit of diversity, equity, and inclusion, as well as its transformative power in embracing our fully erotic selves.

Open to therapists and non-therapists alike, this virtual event is FREE for live attendees. Reserve your spot now and let's engage in this crucial conversation together! Register today: https://www.relationallifefoundation.org/embodied-liberation.html

Over the past couple of years I have been pursuing certification in couples counseling through the Relational Life Insti...
01/23/2024

Over the past couple of years I have been pursuing certification in couples counseling through the Relational Life Institute (home of Terry Real’s Relational Life Therapy). This work has changed my life and I am excited to continue sharing with you!

The Relational Life Foundation is raising funds to study RLT as a therapeutic modality and I am donating my services to support this goal.

This means that you are in luck! For one donation to the foundation, you can receive 3 free RLT sessions with me! Hooray!

You can also check out the foundation website to look for other counselors offering similar services. Don’t miss out on this opportunity!

Link in Bio

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317 North Aurora Street
Ithaca, NY
14850

Opening Hours

Monday 8am - 5pm
Tuesday 8am - 5pm
Wednesday 8am - 5pm
Thursday 8am - 5pm
Friday 8am - 5pm

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+16072695519

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