904 Narcissist Survivor

06/19/2026

A prime example of a narcissist 🤣 always wanting praise for the bare minimum show up. She pays his high priced bills and yet he wants praise for spending money on a basic meal 🙄 my ex narc used to do the same and want praise for such minor things but couldn’t appreciate the rent he never paid for 6 years, the grocery bills he rarely paid but ate like 2 people, the vacation trips he conveniently forgot to pay me back for his portion, etc. yet I was supposed to jump for joy because he decided to pick up a vacuum every once in a while. That grandiosity and need for praise is the red flag 🚩

06/19/2026

I 💯 believe the narcissists consciously knows what they are doing. The fact that they never let others see the abuse and they are so tactful on strategy, smear campaigns, and keeping the abuse behind closed doors shows the calculation and forethought.

06/19/2026

I believe the number of years you were abused is about how many years it takes to heal and undo the damage. I was with the narcissist for 7 years. The fake mask stayed intact for about the first 3 years and the narcissist’s abuse tactics were emotional abuse, verbal abuse, coercive control, and financial abuse the remaining 4 years with the last two being unrelenting/constant abuse with bread-crumbing glimpses of the person he pretended to be the first 3 years. I dumped the narcissist 5 years ago and I’ve come a long way in healing from that mind Fk, chronic anxiety, and PTSD.

06/19/2026

Confusion is your number one sign you are in an abusive relationship.

06/12/2026

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06/09/2026

I believe the people who say report the abuse and just leave and then change that position when they know the abuser or their experience with the abuser has been nothing but kindness to them are also the same people that don’t understand abuse and shouldn’t be giving advice. I know how I naively thought abuse was hitting, chaos, screaming and yelling, etc. but after living in a narcissistic abusive relationship, it is nothing like what you think it is. Being with an abuser has alot of good times mixed with the bad. It’s very confusing and also the same reason why people routinely support abusers over victims as they too have been manipulated and deceived by the abuser. When those around us can’t even identify that they are being used and manipulated by their friend the abuser, it’s ironic that they expect us (the abused) to clearly see it and take the appropriate action to report the abuse and leave. Those same people have no backbone to call out the abuser because their experience with the abuser hasn’t been negative so they explain it away just the same as the abused person does in the relationship. They can’t even take their own advice to report the abuser and walk away from the abusive friend. They don’t want to experience the uncomfortable confrontation with the abuser yet they expect someone who has been psychologically dismantled for years in an abusive relationship to suddenly be confrontational and speak up about the abuse and leave. It’s much easier to blame the victim than actually live the same advice they shove down survivor’s throats.

05/31/2026

😆 one thing you don’t anticipate when you end an abuse relationship and work on yourself is that you will also recognize all the abusive friends and family that took advantage of your kindness. Through healing and growth you realize you don’t need people like that in your life.

05/31/2026

10 weird sexual behaviors of narcissists that most don’t realize are manipulation. I experienced almost all of these behaviors.

05/31/2026