IT's My Time For Change

05/14/2026

Dating/Online dating should come with limits, not full access. Why? Because in the beginning, you are still learning the theory of who a person says they are. Discernment takes time. Character takes time. Consistency takes time.

Once we begin to understand those measures upfront, then we will know whether our hearts can safely go all the way in.

Love bombing is real. It has been a manipulation technique for years. Some people use excessive attention, affection, compliments, and emotional intensity to gain quick access to your heart. And when we allow full emotional access too early, we can end up emotionally downgraded because the relationship was never built on truth, stability, or genuine connection.

Before love, we must first love ourselves. Know ourselves. Understand what we want and what we do not want. Healthy boundaries matter.

Many of us were never taught that, so we just “go with the flow.” It feels good not to feel lonely. It feels good to have attention. It feels good when someone chooses us. But while we are enjoying the feeling, we may stop using discernment — the very gift God gave us to protect our hearts.

Never allow someone to control your emotions, identity, peace, or worth before they have proven their intentions through time, honesty, and actions.

Discernment is not fear. It is wisdom.

— Wisdom by Janie

05/08/2026

A wonderful time of the year is when mothers all across the nation are celebrated by the ones they love. They are taken to dinner, given beautiful cards, thoughtful gifts, and surrounded with joy. What a beautiful thing it is to witness the love and honor poured into a mother’s heart.
There are also the younger generation of mothers seeking just one peaceful moment to themselves, a day to breathe, to rest, and to simply enjoy being pampered. Some may go out to dinner, visit a lounge, or sit by the beach listening to soft jazz music while enjoying delicious appetizers and a glass of wine, embracing every peaceful moment they can find.
But let me tell you this: a mother is genuinely loved because of the love she first gave. She nurtured, sacrificed, comforted, and brought joy into the lives of her children. She carried burdens no one saw and still found strength to smile through it all. And now her children sit with smiles on their faces, watching her unwrap gifts and cards, their little eyes filled with admiration and love.
Grandmothers hold an even deeper treasure. They experience the joy of watching not only their children honor them, but also seeing generations rise up with love and appreciation. Their legacy lives through every hug, every prayer, every lesson, and every sacrifice they made along the way.
As the sun rises and as the sun sets, may every mother feel valued, appreciated, and deeply loved.
Happy Mother’s Day to all the mothers, grandmothers, bonus mothers, and mother figures. May your weekend be filled with peace, love, laughter, and beautiful memories.
— Wisdom by Janie 🌸

05/08/2026

Growth is not just about learning how to protect your peace.
It is also about learning how to walk in compassion, accountability, and grace.
Healthy boundaries are important, but so is kindness.
Healing should not harden our hearts — it should strengthen our wisdom while keeping our love genuine.
Every season teaches us something.
May we grow in a way that reflects both truth and grace.
Wisdom by Janie © 2026

04/28/2026

04/27/2026

There are so many different types of relationships, and each one reflects how we interact with one another when it comes to love.
We talk about love often
but do we truly understand what love is
The Word already defines it what love is and what love is not
Yet dating today has become conditional
It is based on what someone wants, needs, or desires
instead of being rooted in the true foundation of love
That means it can change, shift, and disappear
because it was never built on something solid
Love is not supposed to be transactional
It is supposed to be intentional
So let us talk about it
What does love really look like in relationships today
Have we moved away from its true meaning
Drop your thoughts in the comments
Let us share, grow, and help one another
Wisdom by Janie ✍🏽❤️💝

04/08/2026