Shannon McFauls, LMHC

Shannon McFauls, LMHC Serving Individuals and Families in Florida - Expert in Trauma, Anxiety, Depression, Family Conflict

Have you really been setting boundaries? đŸ€” I see a lot of people having one conversation and giving up. https://www.face...
06/07/2026

Have you really been setting boundaries? đŸ€” I see a lot of people having one conversation and giving up.

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Most people don't have a boundary problem. They have a follow-through problem.
You've said it. Maybe more than once. "Please don't talk to me that way." "I need you to stop." "I'm not okay with this." And then — nothing changed. So you said it again. And again. And somewhere along the way you started to believe that boundaries just don't work for you.

But here's the deal: a boundary you don't enforce isn't a boundary. It's a request.

And people who don't respect you aren't going to honor requests.

The hardest part about setting real boundaries, especially when you come from a home where having needs was punished, is that it requires you to tolerate someone else's discomfort. Their anger. Their guilt trips. Their silence. Their "you've changed" and "you're being difficult."

You also don't need their permission. A boundary doesn't require a debate. You don't have to justify it until they agree it's reasonable. You don't have to wait for them to understand before you enforce it.

You state it once, calmly. And then you do what you said you would do.
Not with anger. Not with a speech. Just quietly, consistently, every single time, until they learn that you mean what you say. Or until you learn that this relationship doesn't have room for the real you.

Attachment Nerd just released another book and I got my pre-ordered copy in the mail yesterday. I am so excited to read ...
04/15/2026

Attachment Nerd just released another book and I got my pre-ordered copy in the mail yesterday. I am so excited to read and recommend this book over and over! An abridged excerpt from the intro:

The Process of Dealing with Our S**t:
1. Aha moment "I recognize this negative attribute or habit in myself"
2. Motivation "I see how this could affect my children and why they deserve my efforts to address this thing"
3. Self-compassion "I also see why I've handled this issue the way I have up until now, and I know it doesnt mean Im a bad parent (or bad person)
4. Effort toward growth "Im going to take the steps necessary to change the impact this issue has on me and my children"

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I help people deal with their s**t and break generational cycles of all kinds, not just trauma and abuse. Maybe its a pattern of perfectionism and criticizing as "helping", or anger being the only emotion allowed to be "strong", or people-pleasing and peace-keeping at your own expense "because its easier". Read more at mytherapistshannon.com and definitely follow

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Are you determined to parent differently than you were raised? Ready to break cycles, heal old wounds, and give your children the emotionally close relationship you always wanted? This is your roadmap. Why This Book? Inside, You’ll Discover How to Heal From: What You’ll Gain: This co...

A friend shared this reel this morning and it hit home.  There's a reason so many people sit across from me in therapy s...
03/29/2026

A friend shared this reel this morning and it hit home. There's a reason so many people sit across from me in therapy saying "I have no idea who I am". They are covered in so much muck that doesnt belong to them that they cannot see the beautiful core of their Self, ready to bloom.

https://www.instagram.com/reel/DTbo5mEj0Ho/?igsh=MWVpN2VheHliajFiMw==

Dr.Siggie - PhD - Parenting Expert is a gem. So many great scripts to have in your back pocket and increase your chances...
03/16/2026

Dr.Siggie - PhD - Parenting Expert is a gem. So many great scripts to have in your back pocket and increase your chances of saying something you're proud of in the moment. I personally love this one and use it everyday with my kids.

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What a beautiful concept of self-love from and  and .parenting How would your daily experience change if you had this ki...
01/19/2026

What a beautiful concept of self-love from and and .parenting
How would your daily experience change if you had this kind of voice in your head instead of that inner critic? đŸ«‚

I have officially launched my online store! 🎉😁​As a therapist, part of my mission has always been to make mental health ...
01/15/2026

I have officially launched my online store! 🎉😁
​As a therapist, part of my mission has always been to make mental health conversations more accessible and less stigmatized. This collection is an extension of that mission—offering wearable reminders that your mental health is a priority.
Explore the store: Mytherapistshannon.com/store

I wouldn't argue that diagnosis is completely insignificant, but I agree with the idea that the diagnostic manual would ...
11/20/2025

I wouldn't argue that diagnosis is completely insignificant, but I agree with the idea that the diagnostic manual would be "a very thin volume" if we had a deeper understanding of the relationship between individuals' nervous system functioning and their environment. Interpersonal neurobiology is a core component of my approach, which I developed an interest in after the first years of my career revealed that traditional methods were limited. I wasn't helping people as much as I could because those methods miss this mark. This author captures why quite eloquently:
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"The DSM Misses the Mark: IPNB Offers a Humane and Scientific Understanding of Mental Health"
Some trauma experts have said that if the psychiatric Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM) acknowledged trauma, it would be a very thin volume because virtually everything else would fall beneath it. But from an Interpersonal Neurobiology (IPNB) perspective, the DSM is irrelevant. A categorical, symptom-based system, it separates people into boxes and treats distress as pathology. IPNB sees humans as relational, neurophysiological systems shaped by context, connection, and experience. What looks like “disorder” is often a survival adaptation to overwhelming environments, chronic stress, or disrupted relationships.

If IPNB principles were the foundation, there wouldn’t be a manual of fixed categories. Instead, the focus would be on mapping how a person’s nervous system is functioning, how their relationships and communities support or sabotage regulation, and where overload or chronic threat is causing symptoms. Instead of labeling people, diagnosis would be about understanding context, connection, and neurophysiological patterns.

Dynamic, relational assessments of the health of internal and external systems would replace the DSM. Everything the DSM tries to name as “illness” would instead be seen as a signal that a system is under chronic strain. An IPNB-informed alternative to the DSM might look like:

No Static Categories, Only Relational Patterns
Instead of labeling people with fixed disorders, it would map patterns of nervous system response across different contexts—threat detection, connection, regulation, and recovery. A “diagnosis” wouldn’t be a label on a person; it would describe how their system is managing stress, connection, and homeostasis.

Distress As A Signal, Not A Pathology
Every symptom—anxiety, depression, pain, insomnia, dissociation—would be seen as information about the nervous system and relational environment. These are adaptive responses to chronic stress, trauma, neglect, or abusive hierarchies, not evidence of “brokenness.”

Emphasis on Developmental and Ongoing Trauma
Instead of isolating traumatic events, it would recognize cumulative relational stress across the lifespan. The system would map how early experiences, caregiving environments, and ongoing societal pressures shape nervous system patterns. Most “disorders” would simply fall under this umbrella.

Systems-Level Assessment
The focus would include family, community, culture, and institutions. How connected is the person? How much support do they actually receive? How safe are their environments? These factors would be central because they directly shape nervous system regulation.

Dynamic, Context-Sensitive Framework
Assessments would be fluid, constantly updated with ongoing observations of physiological state, relational interactions, and environmental demands. It would account for recovery, regression, and adaptation over time, rather than treating symptoms as static.

Intervention Targets
Rather than prescribing medication or therapy based on a label, interventions would aim to:

Reduce chronic threat load
Repair and strengthen relationships and community
Enhance nervous system regulation capacity
Address environmental and structural sources of stress

Education and Prevention as Key
Instead of a manual for diagnosing pathology, it would be a framework for understanding human adaptation, preventing overload, and fostering connection. Everyone’s nervous system could be “mapped” and supported before distress becomes severe.

Several notable organizations have expressed significant opposition to the DSM-5, the current edition: the British Psychological Society, American Counseling Association, Society for Humanistic Psychology (APA Division 32),
Society for Community Research and Action: Division of Community Psychology (APA Division 27), Society for Group Psychology & Psychotherapy (APA Division 49), UK Council for Psychotherapy, the Association for Women in Psychology, Constructivist Psychology Network, and the Society of Indian Psychologists. Reasons for opposition include lack of scientific basis (not based on objective biological markers but on clinical consensus), clinical unusefulness (does not accurately reflect clinical reality and that some diagnoses are overly broad or poorly defined) and its focus on symptoms vs. underlying causes.

The DSM under IPNB wouldn’t exist because its foundation--categorical labeling of people based on symptom clusters--is fundamentally misaligned with how humans function. We would have a relational, neurophysiological map of adaptation and stress, not a book that labels pathologizes them. In my view, given its irrelevance, coupled with its history of driving deep and widespread harm, the DSM should be banished now.

Recent conversations about hope in the midst of this chaotic darkness go much like this poem by Maggie Smith. Though I c...
11/05/2025

Recent conversations about hope in the midst of this chaotic darkness go much like this poem by Maggie Smith. Though I can see clearly how bleak it is right now, I will do my best to protect your hope so you can make this place beautiful.

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