Shannon McFauls, LMHC

09/05/2026

Happy Fall Y'all 🧡🤎💛

📷Credit: Happy Whole Way

09/05/2026

Have you ever wondered why memory reprocessing is part of trauma therapy? Here's what's going on in the brain when I use Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART®️)

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08/06/2026

What do you think needs to happen when your connection is ruptured? What does repair actually mean?

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06/07/2026

Have you really been setting boundaries? 🤔 I see a lot of people having one conversation and giving up.

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Most people don't have a boundary problem. They have a follow-through problem.
You've said it. Maybe more than once. "Please don't talk to me that way." "I need you to stop." "I'm not okay with this." And then — nothing changed. So you said it again. And again. And somewhere along the way you started to believe that boundaries just don't work for you.

But here's the deal: a boundary you don't enforce isn't a boundary. It's a request.

And people who don't respect you aren't going to honor requests.

The hardest part about setting real boundaries, especially when you come from a home where having needs was punished, is that it requires you to tolerate someone else's discomfort. Their anger. Their guilt trips. Their silence. Their "you've changed" and "you're being difficult."

You also don't need their permission. A boundary doesn't require a debate. You don't have to justify it until they agree it's reasonable. You don't have to wait for them to understand before you enforce it.

You state it once, calmly. And then you do what you said you would do.
Not with anger. Not with a speech. Just quietly, consistently, every single time, until they learn that you mean what you say. Or until you learn that this relationship doesn't have room for the real you.

04/15/2026

Attachment Nerd just released another book and I got my pre-ordered copy in the mail yesterday. I am so excited to read and recommend this book over and over! An abridged excerpt from the intro:

The Process of Dealing with Our S**t:
1. Aha moment "I recognize this negative attribute or habit in myself"
2. Motivation "I see how this could affect my children and why they deserve my efforts to address this thing"
3. Self-compassion "I also see why I've handled this issue the way I have up until now, and I know it doesnt mean Im a bad parent (or bad person)
4. Effort toward growth "Im going to take the steps necessary to change the impact this issue has on me and my children"

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I help people deal with their s**t and break generational cycles of all kinds, not just trauma and abuse. Maybe its a pattern of perfectionism and criticizing as "helping", or anger being the only emotion allowed to be "strong", or people-pleasing and peace-keeping at your own expense "because its easier". Read more at mytherapistshannon.com and definitely follow

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Get your own copy:
How to Deal with Your ____ So... https://www.amazon.com/dp/1632175967?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share

Are you determined to parent differently than you were raised? Ready to break cycles, heal old wounds, and give your children the emotionally close relationship you always wanted? This is your roadmap. Why This Book? Inside, You’ll Discover How to Heal From: What You’ll Gain: This co...