06/15/2026
Does pausing *before* you speak when you’re angry seem unrealistic?
You’ve probably heard that a short pause when you’re feeling angry or starting to get triggered can be a game-changer — it helps you respond more calmly, with more intention, and avoid things like yelling or saying things you regret later.
The trouble is, it happens when you’re already upset!
Parenting can be so unpredictable and we may have the best intentions or even do all the research on parenting techniques, but it seems like we’re never "ready" when those difficult moments come. Nobody’s thinking clearly enough to avoid a knee-jerk reaction to their kid’s behavior when the reaction seems to happen immediately!
Here’s the secret: it takes practice. WE’RE RIGHT when we say we just can’t seem to stop ourselves from reacting when our kids push our buttons. Once you’re already escalating, it’s MUCH harder to pause.
It’s not our fault — nobody taught us to observe and regulate our own emotions when we were kids. 🤷🏽♀️ But we can teach it to ourselves as adults!
Practicing and thinking about this skill when you’re NOT upset is key to mastering it — and ultimately improving your communication and connection with your kids!
All information provided by ParentsTogether — https://fb.com/ParentsTogetherOrg
