05/27/2026
Unpopular opinion 😬
I think we’ve optimized ourselves out of community.
The pendulum may have swung a little too far. People lose it when they’re inconvenienced by the very people they used to do life with.
And as a recovering people pleaser, I want to be clear: boundaries still matter. Deeply.
But I also think we’ve lost the art of asking for help… and offering it.
Community was never meant to be perfectly efficient, convenient, or frictionless.
Loving people, and allowing yourself to be loved by people…often requires inconvenience, vulnerability, patience, and practice.
Lately, I’ve been intentionally introducing friction back into my life. In small ways. Allowing myself to need people. Showing up for others. Exercising the muscle of what it takes to love and be loved in real community.
Don’t let discomfort or inconvenience keep you from connection.
