Heartspace Counseling LLC

07/14/2024

"fires".

03/14/2024

01/19/2024

More thoughts like these in my new book The Power of Mess by S.C Lourie

You can find it here:

For the US
https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/1399709259/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?

For Canada
https://www.amazon.ca/Power-Mess-finding-resilience-chaotic/dp/1399709259/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?

For the UK
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Power-Mess-finding-resilience-chaotic/dp/1399709259/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?

So exciting! Please let me know if you order it ###

It’s available on all major book sites and walk in bookshops too, Barnes & Noble, Waterstones and Indigo too xx

01/04/2024

01/03/2024

01/02/2024

Why do we feel "more" anger on the healing path?
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1. We don't feel more anger on the healing path. When we bring awareness to the body, we start feeling what is already there. The fact that we feel more of the suppressed anger doesn't mean that we feel more anger.
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2. Anger is a reflection of the level of suppression in our system: suppressed needs, boundaries, truth. The more our system has learned to suppress, the more anger accumulated in our system.
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The more you get in touch with your survival mechanisms, the more you get in touch with the underlying anger.
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The suppressed anger is intense, dark, destructive and deep and is experienced as frustration, resentment, anger, rage.
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3. By feeling more of the suppressed anger, we also have to make sure that our system has the necessary embodied resources to regulate the energy. Otherwise, we become more aware, but nothing integrates, which is disruptive.
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There's a reason why the system suppresses the anger. It intelligently assesses that there are not enough resources to integrate the energy. To integrate anger, we need more presence, more embodied capacity, more perspective.
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4. There's the possibility of feeling more anger on the healing path when we engage in healing in misattuned ways, dismissing the needs, capacity and limits of our system.
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To integrate anger, we first need to change our relationship with anger. How can we integrate anger when we want to fix it, try to get rid of it, try to hide it, when we consider it too much or when we fear it?
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We need to "look at" anger as
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- wise
- a powerful source of information
- a guide
- an opportunity to attune more to our nervous systems
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For more resources and insights on healing trauma and the nervous system, I invite you to check the book Embodied Healing via the link in bio.
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Love,
Ally.

12/12/2023

Make this the season and year you put yourself first.