Monica Loren Transformation & Relationship Coaching

Monica Loren Transformation & Relationship Coaching Monica Loren is a Certified Energy Healing Therapist specializing in Transformation and Relationship Coaching Are you Yearning for change? Disconnected?

Do you feel something deeply inside of you that knows you need to transform your life? I can help you with these topics and much more! If You're READY for change, your'e in the right place

Do you feel stuck? Feel like you are repeating patterns? Need a safe space to vent, feel and emote? Need a healthy way to process your emotions? Heal pain? Heal Trauma? Heal Relationships? Create healthy habits

and boundaries? Are you ready to live life passionately?

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It all starts in the mind and body. You have the power to change your life. Feel CONNECTED to yourself and the Universe

Get to the root of your re-occurring issues and patterns

Transform relationships

Speak your truth fearlessly

Experience emotional transformation

Connect to your highest potential and passions

Clear blocks and imbalances in the body

Experience the life you have always imagined

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Specializing in:

Create Powerful Belief Systems to Transform your life
Trauma Release Healing
Counseling
Touch Therapy
Somatic Therapy
Hypnotherapy
EFT

We tend to create blocks and imbalances when we don't allow certain energy to flow through the body. Through talk therapy, meditation, breathwork and hands on healing I help you release these blocks and imbalances. Facilitating the flow of energy allows the body's natural ability to heal itself. The result ends in processing and releasing old wounds, traumas, beliefs, patterns and anything that may be locked in the subconscious mind and energy body so that you can live the life you want to live. DM for a free video call. www.monicaloren.com
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Monica's Training: She was born and raised in Los Angeles to Buddhist parents. She has a Healing Practitioner Certification from the Lionheart Institute of Transpersonal Energy Healing. A Certified Kundalini Certification from Golden Bridge Yoga. She is a Certified Conversational Hypnotherapy Practitioner from the Sussex Hypnotherapy Center and Certifications in Relationship Coaching from Udemy. She has studied from acclaimed coaching schools like Coaching Training Institute and the The School of Coaching Mastery.

What 17 years of doing this work has taught meThe strongest people are often the most exhausted.Some of the most capable...
08/27/2026

What 17 years of doing this work has taught me

The strongest people are often the most exhausted.
Some of the most capable people I’ve worked with learned early to be the caretaker, the responsible one, the person everyone could depend on. Eventually, they forget what it feels like to be held themselves.

Hyper independence can look a lot like strength.
For years, I thought handling everything myself made me powerful. Now I understand that “I don’t need anyone” can be what we learn after needing people has disappointed us too many times.

You can love someone and still abandon yourself to keep them.
I’ve seen this in clients, and I’ve lived versions of it myself. You become more understanding, patient and accommodating until you realize you’ve slowly disappeared inside the relationship.

The right relationships will still require healing.
Healthy love doesn’t mean you’ll never be triggered. Sometimes safety is exactly what allows deeper wounds to surface. The difference is there is repair, accountability, communication and someone willing to stay present with you.

A lot of people pleasing is actually about safety.
Sometimes your nervous system learned that keeping everyone else happy kept you safe. You became incredible at reading the room while slowly disconnecting from yourself.

Healing is not becoming less sensitive.
I used to think healing meant nothing would trigger me anymore. Now I believe it means being able to feel deeply without abandoning yourself or losing yourself in what you feel.

The body usually knows before the mind is ready to admit it.
The tight chest. The exhaustion. The anxiety. That feeling that something is off. I’ve learned to respect those signals instead of immediately rationalizing them away.

Achievement doesn’t heal the part of you that never felt enough.
You can build the business, change your body, find love and create the life you once prayed for and still wonder, Am I finally worthy now? That’s why this work has to go deeper.

The deepest work isn’t about becoming someone new.
Healing is removing everything you learned you had to become to be loved, chosen, safe or enough and coming home to who was underneath it all.

WHAT 17 YEARS OF DOING THIS WORK HAS TAUGHT METHE STRONGEST PEOPLE ARE OFTEN THE MOST EXHAUSTED.Some of the most capable...
08/27/2026

WHAT 17 YEARS OF DOING THIS WORK HAS TAUGHT ME

THE STRONGEST PEOPLE ARE OFTEN THE MOST EXHAUSTED.
Some of the most capable people I’ve worked with learned early to be the caretaker, the responsible one, the person everyone could depend on. Eventually, they forget what it feels like to be held themselves.

HYPER INDEPENDENCE CAN LOOK A LOT LIKE STRENGTH.
For years, I thought handling everything myself made me powerful. Now I understand that “I don’t need anyone” can be what we learn after needing people has disappointed us too many times.

YOU CAN LOVE SOMEONE AND STILL ABANDON YOURSELF TO KEEP THEM.
I’ve seen this in clients, and I’ve lived versions of it myself. You become more understanding, patient and accommodating until you realize you’ve slowly disappeared inside the relationship.

THE RIGHT RELATIONSHIPS WILL STILL REQUIRE HEALING.
Healthy love doesn’t mean you’ll never be triggered. Sometimes safety is exactly what allows deeper wounds to surface. The difference is there is repair, accountability, communication and someone willing to stay present with you.

A LOT OF PEOPLE PLEASING IS ACTUALLY ABOUT SAFETY.
Sometimes your nervous system learned that keeping everyone else happy kept you safe. You became incredible at reading the room while slowly disconnecting from yourself.

HEALING IS NOT BECOMING LESS SENSITIVE.
I used to think healing meant nothing would trigger me anymore. Now I believe it means being able to feel deeply without abandoning yourself or losing yourself in what you feel.

THE BODY USUALLY KNOWS BEFORE THE MIND IS READY TO ADMIT IT.
The tight chest. The exhaustion. The anxiety. That feeling that something is off. I’ve learned to respect those signals instead of immediately rationalizing them away.

ACHIEVEMENT DOESN’T HEAL THE PART OF YOU THAT NEVER FELT ENOUGH.
You can build the business, change your body, find love and create the life you once prayed for and still wonder, Am I finally worthy now? That’s why this work has to go deeper.

THE DEEPEST WORK ISN’T ABOUT BECOMING SOMEONE NEW.
Healing is removing everything you learned you had to become to be loved, chosen, safe or enough and coming home to who was underneath it all.

08/21/2026

Personal update

THINGS I FIND (KINDA) CHIC In all the years I’ve been doing this work, some of the deepest transformation I’ve witnessed...
08/13/2026

THINGS I FIND (KINDA) CHIC 

In all the years I’ve been doing this work, some of the deepest transformation I’ve witnessed has come from the exact places people most want to avoid.

The discomfort.
The grief.
The anger.
The heartbreak.
The fear.
The emotions we try to outthink, outrun, fix, suppress or distract ourselves from.

We are often taught that healing means feeling better.

But a lot of the time, healing begins when you become willing to feel what you have spent years trying not to feel.

To sit with the discomfort long enough to understand it.

To let the grief move instead of rushing past it.
To feel the anger without judging yourself for it.
To admit something hurt you without immediately trying to make yourself okay.

Because so much of what looks like coping is really avoidance.

We overwork. Overthink. Scroll. People please. Fix. Control. Stay busy. Chase reassurance. Make ourselves smaller.

Anything to get away from the feeling underneath.

But the places we avoid are often the places holding the most information.

Your sadness may need space.
Your anger may be showing you where you abandoned yourself.
Your grief may simply need to be witnessed.
Your discomfort may be asking you to stop running.

The deepest work is not becoming someone who never hurts.

It is becoming someone who can stay connected to themselves while they do.

Someone who can say:

This hurts.
I wish it were different.
I don’t like how this feels.

And I’m still not going to abandon myself to make the feeling disappear.

That kind of emotional capacity changes everything.

And after doing this work for all these years, I still believe one of the most powerful things we can learn is how to stop running from ourselves.

05/14/2026

Here is the truth about why you sacrifice yourself for love.

It is usually not because you “love too much.”
It is because your nervous system learned that connection required self abandonment.

So you became the one who overgave.
The one who stayed too long.
The one who ignored red flags.
The one who suppressed their needs to avoid conflict, rejection, or abandonment.

This is conditioning.

Research in attachment theory shows that when children grow up around inconsistency, emotional neglect, criticism, emotional unpredictability, or unstable love, they often learn to sacrifice authenticity in order to preserve connection.

Your body adapts for survival.
You learn to monitor moods.
Keep the peace.
Caretake everyone else’s emotions.
Earn love through performance, fixing, pleasing, or over functioning.

And later in adult relationships, your nervous system can mistake emotional chaos for chemistry.

Why?

Because intermittent reinforcement creates powerful dopamine spikes in the brain. Studies show inconsistent affection and validation can actually create stronger emotional attachments, the same psychological mechanism connected to addiction patterns and trauma bonds.

So when someone pulls away, becomes emotionally unavailable, or gives mixed signals, your body can become even more attached.

You want to chase, fix, reconnect, and earn the love back.
Not because you are crazy.
Because your nervous system learned that love was unstable.

This is also why healthy love can initially feel unfamiliar or even “boring” to people who grew up in survival mode.

Because peace does not activate the same emotional intensity your body became conditioned to.

Healing is not just changing your thoughts.
The body has to learn safety too.

Real healing is teaching your nervous system that you are safe to:
Say no.
Have needs.
Hold boundaries.
Stop overgiving.
Disappoint people.
And still remain worthy of love.

Because real love does not require self betrayal.
The moment you stop abandoning yourself for connection, your relationships begin to completely change.

If this landed deeply for you and you are ready to heal these patterns at the root, send me a message.

05/13/2026

Most people think trauma is just a memory in the mind.

But trauma lives in the body.
In the tension.
The shutdown.
The anxiety.
The emotions you were never taught how to fully feel.

Healing begins when you stop running from your pain and learn how to safely be with what your body has been holding.

To learn more about working with me, send me a message.

Most people are not looking for love.They are looking for someone who does not trigger the wounds they refuse to face.Bu...
05/12/2026

Most people are not looking for love.
They are looking for someone who does not trigger the wounds they refuse to face.

But real relationships do not stay in the honeymoon forever.
Eventually your fears come up.
Your abandonment.
Your shutdown.
Your need to control.
Your fear of being too much or not enough.

The healthiest couples are not the ones who never struggle.
They are the ones who are willing to look at themselves when conflict happens instead of making the other person the enemy.

I used to think love was about finding the “right” person.
Someone emotionally evolved.
Someone who would finally make me feel safe.

But after everything I have been through, the chaos, the inconsistency, the emotional abandonment, the nervous system conditioning from childhood, I realized something deeper.

Love is not built by two perfect people.
It is built by two people who are willing to stay conscious when their wounds get activated.
Two people willing to pause instead of punish.
To communicate instead of project.
To take responsibility for their patterns instead of letting trauma run the relationship.

Because when two dysregulated people are fighting from survival mode, there is no real intimacy happening.
Just two nervous systems trying to protect themselves.

And this is why so many relationships fail.
Not because there is no love.
But because there is not enough self awareness, emotional regulation, and willingness to heal.

The relationships that last are not built on perfection.
They are built on two people choosing growth, honesty, presence, and repair over ego.

If this landed in your body and you feel a full body yes, send me a message.

05/05/2026

I used to think I was just “too loving” in relationships.

But the truth is
I was abandoning myself to keep people.
And it started long before dating.

I grew up with a father who would come in with intensity
Then disappear.

Love felt big, overwhelming, consuming
And then it would vanish

There was no consistency
No emotional safety
No grounded presence

And when he was there
There was blame, gaslighting and being made responsible for his behavior

So my body learned something very early:
Love is unpredictable
Love is something you have to hold onto
And if something goes wrong… it must be my fault

So I became the one who adjusted
I understood
I overgave

But because losing connection never felt safe

So in relationships
I stayed past red flags
I silenced my needs
I made excuses for behavior that hurt me

And I told myself this was love
It was actually survival

It was a nervous system that learned:
“If I can just be good enough, needed enough, easy enough… maybe they will stay”

And that pattern followed me into every relationship
Until I finally saw it for what it was

Not a personality trait
A trauma response

And here is the part no one tells you…
When you start healing this
You don’t just set boundaries and feel empowered overnight

At first, it feels wrong

Your body panics
Your mind second guesses
You feel guilt for choosing yourself
You feel like you are the problem

Because your system is wired for attachment over truth

So when you choose truth
It feels like danger

This is why most people go back
Not because they don’t know better
But because their body does not feel safe doing different

This is the work

Learning how to stay
With yourself
In the discomfort
Without abandoning yourself again

That is where everything changes

That is how you stop overgiving
And start experiencing relationships that actually feel safe, consistent, and real

This work is not for everyone.
It is only for you if you are truly ready to go all in on your healing and transformation.

✨ You are ready to make a high level investment in yourself
🌀 You are open and willing to be guided
🔥 You are committed to doing deep inner work
🌟 You are ready to create real change
📩 DM me

If you’re new here, this is a little of my story…I was raised in Los Angeles in a very wild, unpredictable environment. ...
04/30/2026

If you’re new here, this is a little of my story…

I was raised in Los Angeles in a very wild, unpredictable environment. From the beginning, my nervous system was shaped by chaos, inconsistency, and trauma.

My dad likely had traits of Narcissistic Personality Disorder. He would come in with intense love bombing, then disappear into alcoholism, homelessness, or sober living homes. When he came back, it was gaslighting, blaming, and emotional intensity that no child should have to carry.

That pattern imprinted deeply.

Love bombing felt like love.
Chaos felt like connection.
And I carried that into my life without even realizing it.

Right out of high school, I went into the entertainment industry… and experienced multiple traumatic SA experiences, including being dr*gged and pushed toward becoming a high end e$cort.

Later, I found myself in a deeply life altering relationship that started with love bombing and quickly turned into manipulation, infidelity, verbal ab*se, and deception. I thought I was building something real… but it was built on lies.

And this wasn’t just one experience.

It was a pattern.
Repeated in different forms.
Over and over.

Because trauma doesn’t just live in your memories, it lives in your body and your nervous system, shaping what feels “normal.”

I know what it feels like to live with PTSD.
To see the world through that lens.
To constantly scan, numb out, escape, distract myself, overgive, abandon yourself, and call it love.

And I also know what happens when you actually heal.

When you stop abandoning yourself.
When you learn how to feel safely.
When you regulate your body instead of bypassing your pain.
When you break the patterns that once felt impossible to change.

Because if I hadn’t done this work, the statistics are real.

People with unresolved trauma are significantly more likely to experience add*ction, stay in ab*sive relationships, struggle with depression, and repeat cycles that keep them stuck.

This is why I do what I do.
Because I lived it.
I became it.
And I found my way out.

And now I help others do the same.
DM if you are ready for 1:1 Coaching

04/28/2026

This is why nothing is actually changing, no matter how much inner work you are doing…

Your patterns are not coming from your mind.
They are coming from your nervous system.

And your nervous system does not change through force.
It changes through safety.

This is the part no one teaches you.

The anxiety, the overthinking, the people pleasing, the emotional reactivity, the shutting down in relationships…
Those are not personality traits.

They are stored responses.

They were created when something felt overwhelming, unsafe, or too much for your system to process at the time.

So your body adapted.
It suppressed.
It avoided.
It protected.

And now you are trying to think your way out of something your body is still holding onto.

That is why you feel stuck.
In my work, we do not try to override the pattern.
We go to the root of it.

And it always comes back to three things:

✨ Noticing
✨ Allowing
✨ Supporting

Noticing is where you stop running.

You begin to track what is actually happening inside of you, in your body, in your emotions, in your patterns.

Allowing is where everything starts to shift.
Because instead of rejecting what you feel, you stay with it.

Not because you like it.
But because you understand that resisting it is what is keeping it stuck.
And then there is supporting.

This is the missing piece for almost everyone.

If your body does not feel supported in what it is experiencing, it will not release.
It will hold.
It will tighten.

It will keep repeating the same patterns, no matter how much you “understand” them.

This is why real healing can feel uncomfortable.

Because you are learning how to stay with yourself in places you used to abandon.

You are learning how to feel what you once had to suppress.

You are learning how to be with discomfort without shutting down, reacting, or escaping.

And that takes capacity.
It takes support.
It takes doing this in a way that your nervous system can actually integrate.

This is not surface level work.
This is not mindset work.

This is deep, somatic, nervous system healing that changes how you show up in every area of your life, especially your relationships.

DM to work with me 1:1.

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