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05/30/2026

My son forgot his computer this morning.



He called and asked if I could bring it to him.



So, I got in the car and headed to his school.



On the way there, I had a thought I didn’t used to have.



I created a life where I have the space to do this.



There was a time when something like this would’ve irritated me.

I would’ve had something scheduled—something “important”—and this would’ve felt like an interruption.



But today, it didn’t.



Because lately, I’ve been seeing the value of something I used to overlook:



Space.

This Photo is of my son and me at one of the darkest places in the U.S. looking at the stars.

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05/25/2026

If you had all the money and time in the world, what would you do that was truly enjoyable and interesting to you?

How would that benefit the greater good?

05/25/2026

Healthy Love Feels Strange To Unhealed People

I was watching an interview with a celebrity who had left her marriage.


She talked about dating a “nice guy” afterward but said it didn’t work out because that’s not what she needed.


She said she needed chaos, and that’s why she was attracted to the bad boy type.


I actually appreciated the honesty.


The interviewer then made the comment that women don’t want nice guys.

But I think there’s something deeper going on here and wanted to address it because young people are influenced by these things.


When someone comes out of a marriage or a serious relationship, there’s a lot to process.


There’s grief, disappointment, confusion, shattered hopes, lessons, regrets, loneliness, and the loss of the future we thought we were going to have.


That’s a lot.


It’s almost like an emotional amputation.


Something has been removed from your life and now you have to heal, rehabilitate, and learn how to adjust to who you are now.


Most people don’t do that work.


Not because they’re bad people, but because sitting with pain is hard and they’re usually unaware of what they even need.


So instead, many people distract themselves.


Dating, drinking, traveling, attention, surgeries, clothes, social media, work, partying —


anything to take their mind off what they really feel inside.


And the difficult part is this:

After heartbreak, divorce, or emotional pain, many people rush into distraction instead of healing. Because unresolved wounds often make chaos feel familiar, healthy love can actually feel uncomfortable or even unattractive. This piece explores how unhealed people may mistake dysfunction for chemist...

05/23/2026

He Missed His Chance to be His Son's Hero


He came to see me because he had gotten into trouble, and his parents had heard that I coach and connect well with young people.



Unfortunately, I can’t help everyone.



It was hard to reach him.



He wouldn’t open his heart.



He was charming, yes—but guarded, protected, almost dismissive of life itself.



Still, he shared a story that stayed with me.



His father was very successful by worldly standards.



He was also extremely capable and handy.



One day, when this young man was about six or seven, he and his father were driving when they passed someone broken down on the side of the road.



“Daddy, daddy—help that person!” the little boy said.



His father didn’t slow down. He turned away and replied,



“You can’t help everyone, son. That’s how you end up poor and wasting time.”



The boy didn’t think much of it at the time—

but somewhere inside, he was disappointed.



I tried to unpack that moment with him.



But the boy had become a man who was hardened—someone who had lived a largely meaningless life, marked by taking advantage of others and never committing to a path or a purpose.



Why do I share this?

05/16/2026

The Trap of Over Giving in Relationships

When I was younger, I thought no woman would ever leave me.

I mean… why would they?

I’d grocery shop, cook, clean, provide—be the perfect boyfriend, the perfect husband.

Sounds great, right?

Wrong.

It’s great… if you’re the other person.

But that’s not a relationship.

That’s servitude.

And the truth is—no one wants to be in a relationship where one person is the servant.

Not even the one being served.

Because how does someone feel truly loved…

if that “love” is just someone waiting on them hand and foot?

And how does the giver feel loved…when their value comes only
from what they do?

Eventually, something breaks.

The person being over-served gets bored… or worse, starts to take advantage.

And the one over-giving?

They feel unseen, unappreciated, and exhausted.

Here’s what I had to learn the hard way.

05/15/2026

What is the meaning of life?

05/10/2026

Happy Mother’s Day to all the mom’s out there!

Your role is one of the most important in the world.

You shape hearts, homes, and generations in ways that often go unseen.

Thank you for the love, sacrifice, patience, strength, and care you provide and for choosing to be a mother.

Your impact reaches farther than words can express.

Today we celebrate you. ❤️

05/09/2026

What Divorce Taught Me About Letting Go

A lot of people know how to begin things… but do they know how to end them?


When we start a career or a new relationship, we’re filled with enthusiasm and excitement.
There’s hope.

There’s energy.

There’s possibility.


But how often do we consider the ending?


Where we draw the line if something becomes unhealthy…


Or how we recognize when something simply isn’t our path anymore.


And what about the things we longed for… that just didn’t work out?


The end of a relationship where we truly cared about someone.

A promotion we deeply wanted but didn’t get.


A friendship we loved that changed—through distance, life, or loss.


Endings are inevitable.


And yet, most of us don’t think about them… until we’re in the middle of one.

And I think if we did, we would actually enjoy our lives a lot more.


I know for me, my divorce was one of the hardest things I’ve ever gone through.

Watching my family separate… and realizing there was nothing I could do to stop it… that was heavy.


It was during that time that I was really introduced to the idea of completing a relationship.


Not just ending it—but completing it in a healthy way.

There were a few things that helped me, and I want to share them with you:

05/03/2026

What Love Makes Possible
Last week I wrote about two women I know.



I didn’t choose them because they’re “nice.”



I chose them because they are two of the finest women I know.



The first—you’ll almost never hear her talk about herself.



She’s deeply concerned for others… in a way I don’t even think she’s aware of.



And she hasn’t had an easy life. Her father, mother and brother died by her 18th birthday.



When you speak with her, it’s like your problems become hers—and she genuinely wants to help in any way she can.



The second woman… What's unique about her is what she’s done with her life.



Sometimes people rise above hard circumstances and become better because of it.



She did something different.



She took good circumstances—and outgrew even those.



She could have hidden behind the gifts she was given.



Instead, she chose to use them to help as many people as she can.



Now let me be clear:



Both of these women are human.



They have hard days.
They get frustrated.
They face challenges like anyone else.



I say that because I’m not trying to put them on a pedestal.



But I am saying this:

05/03/2026

What Love Makes Possible

Last week I wrote about two women I know.

I didn’t choose them because they’re “nice.”

I chose them because they are two of the finest women I know.

The first—you’ll almost never hear her talk about herself.

She’s deeply concerned for others… in a way I don’t even think she’s aware of.

And she hasn’t had an easy life. Her father, mother and brother died by her 18th birthday.

When you speak with her, it’s like your problems become hers—and she genuinely wants to help in any way she can.

The second woman… What's unique about her is what she’s done with her life.

Sometimes people rise above hard circumstances and become better because of it.

She did something different.

She took good circumstances—and outgrew even those.

She could have hidden behind the gifts she was given.

Instead, she chose to use them to help as many people as she can.

Now let me be clear:

Both of these women are human.

They have hard days.
They get frustrated.
They face challenges like anyone else.

I say that because I’m not trying to put them on a pedestal.

But I am saying this: