04/27/2025
Unless someone is 💯 attacking you, your character, and threatening your own wellbeing…you don’t have ‘haters’. You have humans with different opinions, life experiences, and lenses of perception.
If you are jumping down everyone’s throat when they don’t agree with you or they show they lack knowledge in areas you are an expert in, that speaks more volumes about your own insecurities than their inability to see your point of view. You are attacking them (subconsciously) and taking it as an attack on you personally which then gets nothing accomplished and sets you on a spiral of self-delusion of thinking you have ‘haters’. When in realiity you have miscommunication and an inability to rise above personal triggers to see the other human. Where is the opportunity for learning & growth when you attack or feel attacked by someone who thinks differently than you?
Yes, there are times where something is wrong and must be defended or corrected. Plain & simple. And you can’t fight someone who wants to deny true natural facts of life or someone who wants to stay ignorant. However, to put everyone into that category of ‘hater’ that doesn’t agree with you? Oh dear…that’s a you issue.
Asking questions for clarification, being vulnerable with our own ignorance, trying to learn but not processing the way you want others to process are NOT grounds to dismiss, yell at, or put into the category of ‘hater’. YOU and your reaction is what needs growth.
Be passionate in life, have convictions and integrity. Stay strong in the face of negative ignorance and always use your voice when you feel called to share your life experiences & perspectives…but please STOP attacking those who don’t think like you or come to the same life conclusions as you. If this is constantly your default mode or defensive mechanisms when faced with opposing views, you need to do some inner work on why.
Because in the end, if we have truly done the work on ourselves and have grown past & out of our traumas & triggers (constant life long struggle) then we should be able to see another human’s opinions and life experiences as an opportunity for learning, discourse, discussion, and respect towards a fellow human being. Calling someone a ‘hater’ for not agreeing with you is not respectful or helpful in anyway to you or them.
Don’t let others trigger you to the point you are closing your own self off from opportunities of growth & learning. You can do this. You got this. 🙏🏻♥️