06/18/2026
You didnāt choose your first relationship with food. Someone handed it to you.
Maybe it was the comments about bodies at the dinner table. The āgoodā foods and the ābadā foods. The diet your mom was always starting Monday. The sense that you had to earn dessert, or earn your body, or earn the right to take up space.
You absorbed it before you could question it. Thatās how this works. Kids donāt learn their relationship with food from what we say about food. They learn it from watching us live it.
Which is the hard part and also the most hopeful part.
Because if it gets passed down, it can also stop. No, not by being perfect around food in front of your kids. Or by saying the right things. But by actually doing your OWN work, so the thing they pick up from you is āeaseā instead of fear.
The cycle truly stops with you. This might feel like a lot of pressure; or, you can feel revved by the power of it.