06/17/2026
Someone at my Better Man class at Shelter Cove Church last night asked me why I hadn't retired-retired? The man who asked me is older than I am and works just as hard as he did when he was younger. We both laughed. I believe we always need a purpose, and mine is to be a better man, husband, writer, and example.
One of the questions we had to answer during a roundtable discussion was how we want our children to remember us in one word. That brought up stuff. As a young dad, I was successful, but I was a "wild and crazy guy."
I don't want to be remembered for that.
So, I told my group I want to be remembered as a grandfather who was an example and a mentor to my grandchildren.
Since I was a young man and a big reader, I read The Fountainhead by Ayn Rand. I had a saying after that rattled in my head, "To be a man as a man should be." Howard Roark was the man.
Then, as I got older, I changed it to "To Be David as David should be." What a fuc& #@! mistake that was.
To be a mentor to my children and grandchildren in my later years, I need "To be a grandfather as a grandfather should be." And what is in the back of my mind and coming forward is "To be a man as God wants me to be." I'm getting closer to that, but I still need a lot of work in that department.
Anyways, as I looked at one of the many walls in our house that is filled with photos of our children and grandchildren, I noticed something. I have the greatest mentor living with me.
Vicky makes these walls, and I do stop and stare at them, and I am always impressed by how blessed we are, and I will be the first to say that it's the Grace of God that She gives Vicky that falls onto me.
All you have to do is look at the photos, and something will stand out. On every wall, and I mean every wall, Vicky honors where this grace comes from.
Today, I will continue my work on being a Better Man. And no one has to tell me — I still have a lot of work to do. May God bless your day.