04/28/2026
There was a time I believed being ātoo emotionalā was something to fix.
Too much. Too intense. Too sensitive. Too passionate. Too messy.
I believed emotions made me less wise, less stable, less spiritual.
I thought growth meant quieting myself. Silencing what I really felt. Staying composed no matter what moved through me. Being agreeable. Being easy to digestā¦. And then the trauma wounds. Keeping the peace. Making others more comfortable.
But over the years, life has taught me something deeper.
Much of that was conditioning and self-abandonment.
A world shaped by patriarchal values has long rewarded disconnection. It has praised restraint over truth, numbness over honesty, silence over expression. Especially in women.
We were taught that calm is superior to passion. That being unaffected is more evolved than being alive.
But what I know now is this:
Being spiritual is not abandoning your emotions.
Being enlightened is not bypassing your humanity.
Being healed is not becoming emotionally flat.
Sacred love still contains fire. Divine connection still holds intensity. Truth can arrive as grief, joy, tenderness, rage, devotion, longing.
Emotion is not the opposite of wisdom.
Emotion is energy carrying information.
Emotion is life moving through the body.
Emotion is often the voice of the soul refusing suppression.
The portal to the Divine is not found by escaping our humanness.
It is found through inhabiting it fully.
So no, I will not shrink my feelings to make others comfortable.
I will not silence what is honest within me.
I will not perform detachment to appear evolved.
There is liberation in allowing yourself to feel deeply.
There is power in embodied truth.
There is freedom in finally letting yourself be exactly as you are.
with Jena