06/08/2026
Hello Sweet Friends ~
My dear sweet dad passed Friday morning, June 5. It was swift and intentional, a powerful thing to witness. His passing was the most extraordinary event of my life. I am so grateful for my practice; I was able to be there fully, all of me, there with him as the last bits of yang slipped out of his body.
His passing has me contemplating many things, and one is Thich Nhat Hanh's teaching about how we continue in the world. The example Thay often uses is a cloud. As the cloud becomes rain, snow, or hail, the form we recognize as a cloud may cease to exist, but it is not "gone," it just continues as a form of precipitation. Thay says we are all clouds.
There is an obvious continuation from parent to child. We can literally see the parent in the child and grandchildren. Parents also exist inside of us in ways that are not obvious - in the lessons they have taught us, the actions they have modeled for us, and in the speech we have used to communicate over the years. Our loved ones continue in friends and family, and everyone they have taught or inspired over the years. They also continue in the elements around us - the energy that animated them returns to wholeness, like a drop rejoining the ocean.
Everything that is good in me came from my dad. He was my first and greatest teacher, my beacon, my nurturer, my safe harbor, and one of life's greatest joys. All of his best qualities exist in me and come out in my parenting, my teaching, my friendships, and in my partnership with my beloved. The ever-present sparkle in his eye continues in the world as shimmering sunshine, golden reflections on the Gulf waters at sunset, and the jeweled gleam of the early morning dew. I have chosen this picture of him as it really captures his Spirit. That bright soul shine coming thru his eyes never left until he closed them one last time. I will forever see him in the sparkling beauty around me.
Thank you for letting me share what turned out to be a relatively short and gentle journey with my dad. It suits his character. When he is determined to do something, he just does it. A no-time-like-the-present-kinda-guy, he went out like he lived - with humor, courage, and a whole lotta love. 🩵🩵