The Hollow Bone

09/07/2026

09/03/2026

It is not only the church. This pattern shows up in many spiritual leaders, of many different backgrounds. "Gurus" of practices like: Reiki, Yogis, Buddhists, shamans, and others, fall prey to the seduction of "Spiritual Power".
I came across this over 10 years ago, when a client came to me who had been in the inner administrative circle of an internationally known spiritual guru(I'm not naming names). My client had started to realize that this guru was doing things that were becoming questionable, and lacking integrity. When she decided to speak out about it, the guru ostracized her from the organization, and sent a very nasty curse to punish her.
I had to do quite a bit of work to untangle this.
During the session my guides told me something I will never forget:
"The people we are most inclined to give our power away to, are spiritual leaders...people believe a spiritual leader is, by their transcendence and wisdom, a person of integrity who will never do harm. Because of the power they receive from their adoring followers, these gurus can attract dark spirits who take over and start using the guru as a means to control his or her followers-- thus syphoning off the congregations energy, to gain more power."
Since that client, I have had several clients, all deeply involved around internationally known teachers, get attacked in the same way when they started to question the leader.
This is a very distinct pattern.
The awareness is this: Don't give your agency and power away to someone just because they are "Spiritual". Discernment is essential to avoid a corrupted spiritual leader.

09/01/2026

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08/28/2026

I have heard many clients wistfully say that they believed they were born in the wrong family . 😥

08/25/2026

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08/11/2026

Being on the healing journey is not a straight and direct path to feeling better. Awareness can evoke uncomfortable emotions.
Be gentle with yourself. 🙏

07/28/2026

I've counseled many clients who chose to distance themselves from their parents/family.
Peace becomes more important than family.

People love to ask why adult children leave.

Almost nobody asks what had to happen for leaving to become the safest option.

Because children do not naturally move away from the people they are wired to love.

They move toward them.

Again.
And again.
And again.

And again.

They explain.
They forgive.
They minimise.
They hope.
They come back believing maybe this time will be different.

Long before there is distance, there are usually years of trying not to need it.

That is the part people never witness.

They only see the boundary.

They never see the thousands of moments that built it.

The conversations that changed nothing.
The apologies that never came.
The fear of bringing something up because it would somehow become your fault.
The way your body started bracing before you even walked through the door.

By the time someone chooses distance, they are rarely running away from love.

They are running toward something they have not felt for a very long time.

Peace.

And that is what so many people misunderstand about estrangement.

It is not choosing to lose a parent.

It is choosing to stop losing yourself.

If a relationship repeatedly asks you to sacrifice your nervous system, your reality, your self-respect, your body, your peace, your ability to trust yourself…

distance is not what broke the relationship.

Distance is what finally exposed how broken it already was.

That is why the conversation should never begin with,

“How could a child do that to a parent?”

It should begin with,

“What happened inside that relationship that made peace feel impossible while they stayed?”

Because that answer tells you everything.

07/28/2026

Very true, and a family can carry several of these traits.