Deathwalker Doula Services

05/16/2026

Today is our very first Death Café at Runic Apothecary 🕯

We’re all set up and ready to hold space for honest, thoughtful, and important conversations around death, dying, grief, and what it means to live fully.

Death Cafés are not about lectures or agendas—they’re about community, curiosity, connection, and creating space for conversations we so often avoid.

Looking forward to sharing this evening with everyone who joins us. 🤍

05/13/2026

We’re here! ☕🕯

Ask a Death Doula: Café Edition is happening right now at The High Lift Coffee Shop in Two Rivers, WI!

This is a relaxed, welcoming space to stop in, ask questions, and have open conversations about death, dying, grief, end-of-life care, and what a death doula actually does. No pressure, no agenda—just connection and conversation.

Come grab a drink, say hello, and join us. 🤍

05/11/2026

05/09/2026

Today we’re at the Death Café - Manitowoc, WI happening at Black Heart Books! I look forward to seeing everyone there!

05/08/2026

What to Say (and NOT Say) to Someone Who Is Dying

End-of-life conversations are often the hardest and the most important. Many people struggle with what to say, and in that discomfort, default to phrases meant to comfort but that may unintentionally create distance.

In hospice and palliative care, communication is guided by one principle: meet the patient where they are, not where we wish they were.

What to say:

Use clear, compassionate, and supportive language:
“I’m here with you.”
“You matter to me.”
“I love you.”
“Thank you for your life and what you’ve given.”

Acknowledge reality without taking away hope
Hope at the end of life may shift, from cure to comfort, peace, or meaningful connection

Offer reassurance of presence
“You are not alone.”
“We’re going to walk through this together.”

Allow space for emotion.Silence, listening, and gentle presence are therapeutic interventions, not absences of care

What to avoid:

Avoid false reassurance that may invalidate the patient’s awareness. Phrases like “You’ll be fine” can create emotional isolation. Avoid minimizing or redirecting difficult emotions. Fear, sadness, and even silence are normal and should be supported, not avoided. Avoid making the moment about your own discomfort. The focus should remain on the patient’s experience.

Evidence-based guidance emphasizes that honest, empathetic communication improves quality of life, reduces distress, and supports dignity at the end of life (National Institute on Aging, 2023; World Health Organization, 2020; Hospice and Palliative Nurses Association, 2021).

At the bedside, there is no script. But there is a standard of care. Be present. Be honest. Be compassionate. That is what patients remember.

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05/08/2026

05/05/2026

This week is Dying Matters Week 💜

Death, dying and bereavement affect us all, so we should talk about them more. Dying Matters Week is an opportunity to raise awareness and encourage all communities to get talking in whatever way, shape or form works for them.

For more information on grief and support, please visit our website ⬇️

https://www.cruse.org.uk/

05/03/2026

Tonight at Runic Apothecary 🤍

We gather in a space that holds some of the deepest forms of grief—pregnancy loss, miscarriage, stillbirth, and the loss of a child.

This is a circle of women, for women.
A space to be seen, heard, and held without judgment.

We will open a sacred space together—one where stories can be shared, silence can be honored, and grief can be witnessed in all its forms. Through gentle rituals and shared experiences, we begin to tend to our pain while also creating something just as important: community, compassion, and connection.

There is no right way to show up.
There is no timeline on grief.
You are welcome exactly as you are.

🕯🤍

05/02/2026

I’m here and all set up at the Spyral Events Spring Fair! 🌿🕯

There are so many incredible vendors here today—truly such a beautiful mix of offerings and community. I’d love for you to stop by my table, say hi, and chat about what I do as a death doula.

I also have gift cards available if you’re looking to give something meaningful—the gift of support, education, and presence during life’s most tender moments. 🤍

Come wander, explore, and connect!