05/31/2022
// What to do when you don’t feel supported by your nearest in the changes you want to make? //
I can’t tell you how many women I have worked with who have wanted to make changes to their life or mindset and have not had support from their partners or adult loved ones.
It feels hideous, I know. It feels lonely and it makes you feel trapped in a version of you that you’re trying to shed.
Lack of support looks like
- Criticism
- Attachment to your old identity “you’ll never change”, “you’re the kind of person that…”. “you can’t”, “you won’t”
- A passive, in-different relationship with the changes that you’re trying to make.
- Making the changes you’re working on somehow into something about them 🤯 (you’re not doing it for us/what about us/what about your family? – I’ve heard this one when one lady wanted to started cooking more healthy dinners!)
- Shaming and belittling
When all you want is to hear is –
“I trust you” “I’m with you” “How can I support you” “I know you can do this”
Being held hostage to who you were yesterday whilst also KNOWING internally there are key shifts taking place, makes the whole process a lot harder.
I’m here to tell you that I know, I KNOW you can do it. This isn’t a cliché post of “you’ve got this girl”… this is a deep knowing and recognition of mine that change can happen in an instant, in one decision, by anyone about anything of any size or magnitude.
I don’t care how long you have been the way you are, I don’t care how many times you’ve tried, it’s irrelevant to me that you’ve been here before.
What I know for sure is that human’s cannot excel, evolve, heal, recover, improve, grow without F~A~I~T~H.
What I know for sure is that SHAME is the absolute killer of faith and self esteem.
I know when I have children that no matter how many times they fall over trying to walk the words “you’re not the kind of person that can walk” or “walking isn’t your strong suit” will never come out of my mouth.
I see you, I’ve got you, reach out, say hello because whatever it is, I know you can do it, I know you have it in you to make it happen, and I felt utterly compelled today to tell you that ♥️