04/20/2026
Being hurt by inconsistent behavior does not mean you are taking it too personally.
Sometimes it hurts because it is genuinely painful to be on the receiving end of mixed signals, distance, or unpredictability.
But hurt and personalization are not the same thing.
I want to help you understand what is happening beneath the behavior. Not because it doesnโt hurt but because our understanding can help release the stories we tell ourselves about their behavior.
Often, inconsistent behavior happens when someone is moving between clarity and fear. Between their more grounded self and the part of them that feels threatened, overwhelmed, or afraid.
Your work is to stay grounded in this knowing, see what the inconsistent behavior brings up in you and heal that part ๐ค