Jonathan Stein Counseling

07/02/2018

Yes, indeed. When we become gentle with ourselves; when we truly learn to respect and be kind to ourselves, then we will naturally know what is involved in being gentle with others and we will more than likely involve ourselves in exactly that.

Lama Yeshe

06/30/2018

This quote is a great reminder! A few days ago, I was feeling irritated about something. I don't even recall what, but when my partner had the sense that my irritation was being directed at her, unconsciously and sideways, she told me in a kind and direct way that she didn't like the way it felt and that she was going to leave the room for a while. I loved that she did that even though I immediately felt vulnerable and a little embarrassed. But it was great modeling for me for two reasons: One, that by her giving herself permission to take care of herself by not subjecting herself to my less than mindful emotional regurgitation, I was witness to a very graceful way of seeing how others set boundaries, and two, it reminded me that I too can practice that with others while also communicating my needs in a compassionate, clear way. ...And, by doing that she taught me how she wanted to be treated if we were going to spend time together. Good stuff!

I love this quote about setting boundaries. If everything is important, then NOTHING is important!

06/26/2018

When I take on a new project, whether it be learning to feed myself with more acceptance and let go of my ingrained diet culture mentality, or cultivating a new skill as a therapist, I often feel as if I have the only way to succeed is if I do it absolutely perfectly, as if that is my ultimate measure of success: no mistakes, ever. Not very compassionate, right? You can almost feel the vitriol. :) Let's try something different instead. Let's work on being compassionate with ourselves, even when (especially when) we are on a new learning curve. In the end, regardless of where you fall on you learning curve a la carte, self-compassion will take you way farther in your endeavors than an attitude of harsh perfectionism.

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06/26/2018

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10/21/2017

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10/20/2017

Anger is one of those feelings that many people have a hard time dealing with. Feeling really angry, especially if it happens regularly, can cause you to be critical of yourself, feel ashamed, and even to lash out. I help you unpack, understand, and unravel your anger, and encourage safe expression of intense feelings in a supportive holding environment, and help you cultivate the skills necessary to transform your anger into an ally. I am familiar with the emotion of anger and all the potentially shameful or frightening thoughts and fantasies that can accompany it. I hold a clear vision of the wholeness and goodness of who you are beyond this challenge so that you can move toward healthy and skillful relating with your anger, yourself, and people in your life.nd your relationships with others.

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