05/13/2026
Something I see over and over in hypnotherapy sessions:
The shame we all carry usually doesn’t belong to us.
It belongs to a younger version of her or him. A little girl or boy who learned, somewhere along the way, that being too much, too emotional, too needy, or angry means she or he is bad.
So what what any smart kid would do, we make our self manageable.
And the nervous system filed that away as: this is how we stay safe.
Here’s what’s wild. That belief doesn’t just live in the memory. It lives in the body. It shows up as the collapsed chest, the tight throat, the urge to disappear when you feel exposed.
This is why you can not just think your way out of shame. The part of you that’s carrying it is not your logical adult mind. It’s a much younger part who needed something they never got.
In inner child work, we go back to meet them. Not to relive what happened, but to give the nervous system something different. Safety. Warmth. A witness who isn’t going to leave.
And slowly, the belief starts to shift.
Not because you convinced yourself out of it. Because a part of you finally felt safe enough to let it go.
Save this if shame shows up for you. And if you want to go deeper, the link in my bio is a good place to start.
Rooting for you,
Shannon🤍