09/01/2026
I recently came across a post criticizing postpartum influencers for appearing too “perfect” - hair and makeup done, making meals, and seemingly functioning well, because it doesn’t show the “true” reality of postpartum.
I understand the concern about unrealistic expectations online, but I don’t think we should replace one narrow picture of postpartum with another.
Not brushing your teeth until 4 p.m., wearing the same messy bun for two days, crying, and simply surviving can absolutely be real postpartum.
But it isn’t the only real version.
I had a genuinely positive recovery after delivering my twins. Was I overwhelmed caring for four children five and under? Absolutely!! I was exhausted, overstimulated, and touched out.
But I also prioritized small things that helped me feel more like myself, not because I had everything together (I didn’t!), but because they helped me show up better for myself and my family.
I also had support, including a husband with paternity leave, and I recognize that not every mother has the same resources, health, or circumstances. Struggling is never a personal failure.
I simply want women to know that feeling good postpartum IS possible too. Looking put together doesn’t necessarily mean someone is pretending, and having a positive postpartum experience doesn’t make it any less real.
Swipe through for a few things that helped me feel more nourished and grounded. I’d also add hourly prayers to God 💕
How can you care for or allow someone else to care for you today? What’s one thing you can do for yourself?