05/28/2026
Rampant. It’s also called learned helplessness. Here the part people overlook🎯
Nice people can unintentionally be enablers. Nice people do nice things to make THEMSELVES feel better, beLIEving they are helping, yet are actively enabling someone who could thrive. It’s selfish really when you dissect it honestly.
A person tends to not work on themself until life gets so hard being the same that NOW change is an easier or more attractive option. They get sick and tired of being sick and tired of their own self and behaviors. Change is welcomed. Hitting rock bottom often saves life’s but “nice people” soften the landing so they themself won’t get upset when another hits rock bottom. That’s NOT helping anyone!
Nice Enablers keep sick people who can self heal stuck.
Last night I watched “The Crash” on Netflix. It’s masterclass on enabling. It is so incredibly important for children to be raised with clear boundaries and with the ability to face the natural consequences of their behavior. Behavior is communication. Life teaches us through feedback is that communication is healthy or dysfunctional. Ideally, parent figures don’t shield their children from the feedback life gives. That’s how humans learn. When we’re enabled, it can actually lead us to being disabled— because no one allows us face ourselves and our actions. Instead, we live in a false reality of avoidance that lets us feel good (temporarily), but deeply harms us long term.
Enabling is the root cause of so much of what we call “evil” in our society