03/31/2026
Over the weekend, we had the pleasure of sharing space with psychologist and s*x therapist Dr. Arlene Goldman at . We talked perimenopause, intimacy, connection, and the importance of P-A-S-S-I-O-N—Play, Acceptance, Sensation, Seduction, Intuition, Openness, and Natural—and really opened up.
We asked questions, shared stories, and offered each other advice—everything from kinks and p**n habits to prioritizing self-care and dating your partner (child-free!).
A few things I jotted down during the session (and while reading Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your S*x Life by Emily Nagoski):
It takes energy, not work, to maintain a healthy s*x life.
Focus on pleasure, not performance.
Desire thrives when you’re not overwhelmed or exhausted.
The correct term for the external female genitalia is “vulva”—the va**na is internal. (Humbled to admit I learned this late, but sharing anyway.)
Your brain has a s*xual accelerator (what turns you on) and s*xual brakes (what shuts things down). Both matter.
If you have questions, my DMs are open. (Dr. Goldman is also accepting new clients in Philly. I can share her info if you’re interested.)
And if you’re looking for a safe, inclusive community of women who show up for one another—and yes, talk about s*x—join us.
Learn more at morethanmothers.com or message me. We meet twice a month, both in person and virtually. Come to what speaks to you, skip what doesn’t.
Next up:
📖 Virtual Book Club — April 1 at 8 PM (This Time Tomorrow by Emma Straub)
❤️ Pilates + Sound Bath with at — April 25 at 3 PM
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