05/09/2024
This topic came up in conversation yesterday. As much as patience and tolerance are virtuous, it is only to a certain degree. At some point these ideals can be toxic and knowing how to discern the difference between healthy and unhealthy patience and tolerance is VERY important. We disrespect ourselves when we put up with too much disrespect from others which causes self-loathing and resentment towards others and self.
This is a breeding ground for hate and toxic behaviors to manifest for both parties. This can very quickly lead to bad habits, addictions, and self-destructive actions that are the opposite of self care. Self care begins with self respect and boundaries. If we do not love and respect ourselves, we won’t take care of ourselves. If we do not have strong boundaries, we won’t have any time to.
Boundaries are super hard to put up, especially with those we love dearly. Self respect and self love is often very hard to give to ourselves but it is so important for living a healthy life.
This topic is very important because health and wellness starts in the mind and with our relationships. Our relationship to others and our relationship to self. Which are really one and the same. It’s is harder to be in control of our relationships to others when we don’t have a good relationship with self. When we take a step back and focus on our internal relationship with our self, our external relationships with others inherently changes too. It is much easier to work from the inside out than the outside in.
Care, respect, love of self is so much more than just going to a massage, a yoga class, or exercising. This journey of self healing really starts from the inside out and goes way deeper than we might think. If we do not deeply value ourselves and our health mentally, emotionally, and physically we will not be able to get healthy or stay healthy which is the harder part. It’s a lifestyle and a daily practice not something we do in our “off time”.
We all say we don’t “have time” and we never will if we don’t make time and create space to do so. It needs to be a priority, no excuses.