Siah Fried Coach

Siah Fried Coach I'm Siah Fried|Parent & Family Coach|NBC-HWC|MPH. 30 years in clinics,college & high school classrooms watching the mental health epidemic unfold in real time.

Parenting&wellness support without blame or shame.đź”—Free Parent Guide: www.siahfriedcoach.com I am Siah Fried. I am a health and parent coach. My career spans over 30 years in the public health field with a breadth of experience educating and coaching very diverse populations on a vast array of health topics from chronic disease management and prevention to resilience and mental health coaching. I

have taught or coached various health topics in hospitals, clinics, and classrooms from preschool to college and every grade between. There isn’t a health topic, situation, or personality that I have not come across. There are two ways you can work with me:

Health & Wellness Coaching

I am a Nationally Board Certified (NBHWC) Health and Wellness coach, with a master's degree in public health. My experience includes 10 years as a clinical health educator, 17 years as a health, nutrition, and women’s health professor, and 4 years as a high school health teacher. As your health and wellness coach, I will support you as you connect the dots between your health goals and/or doctor’s recommendations and the practical steps needed to achieve sustainable results. Parent Coaching

I am also a Certified Parent Coach through the Jai Institute of Parenting. My experience as a parent coach includes the work I did for 18 years as a school health consultant and the work I continue to do as a parent health educator for the local school district. Most importantly, I am a parent of 2 grown kids and 1 teenager. I have helped parents (including myself) and students overcome hundreds of stress and mental health challenges over the years. As your parent coach, I will support you as you support your child through an eating disorder or other mental health challenge.

08/27/2026

I wish more parents would wait just 30 seconds.

We rush to solutions because we want to help.

We explain. Correct. Teach. Give advice.

But sometimes we’re solving the problem before we fully understand it.

One of the simplest things a parent can say is:

“Help me understand.”

Not because we should never guide or correct our kids.

But because what looks like defiance, avoidance, attitude, or overreaction may make a lot more sense once we understand what’s underneath it.

Sometimes understanding comes before change.

When nothing is working, try a new lens.

08/26/2026

If you’ve ever thought,

“I feel like I’ve failed my child,”

you’re not alone.

The parents who say those words to me are almost always the ones who care the deepest.

They haven’t given up.

They’re still learning.

Still repairing.

Still showing up.

Sometimes the next step isn’t trying harder.

Sometimes it’s seeing your child—and yourself—through a different lens.

That’s exactly what we’ll explore in my free monthly parent class.

When Nothing Is Working: Try a New Lens on Parenting & Behavior.

No blame. No shame. Just FORWARD.

✨ Free Parent Class

When Nothing Is Working: Try a New Lens on Parenting & Behavior

đź”— Register here



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08/26/2026

Maybe the behavior isn’t the problem. Maybe it’s how they’re surviving the pressure.

For years, I thought the goal was to stop the behavior.

The arguing.
The avoidance.
The procrastination.
The shutting down.
The overachieving.

But eventually I learned to ask a different question:

“What pressure is this behavior trying to survive?”

Because what we see on the outside doesn’t always tell us what’s happening underneath.

Fear changes behavior.

Anxiety changes behavior.

Perfectionism changes behavior.

ADHD can change behavior.

And overwhelm can make even a capable kid look unmotivated, defiant, or checked out.

Maybe the behavior isn’t the problem. Maybe it’s how they’re surviving the pressure.

That doesn’t mean we excuse unhealthy behavior or eliminate expectations.

It means we pause long enough to understand what may be driving it before deciding how to respond.

Instead of only asking:

“How do I stop this?”

Try asking:

“What might be making this so hard right now?”

Because when we understand the pressure, we can start helping our kids build the capacity and tools to handle it.

And our response changes, too.

Behavior is often the clue—not the problem.

When nothing is working, try a new lens.

No blame. No shame. Just FORWARD.

08/24/2026

Curiosity changes conversations.

When a parent tells me about a behavior they’re struggling with, I’m interested in the behavior.

But I’m even more interested in what might be underneath it.

So I often ask:

“What do you think your child is feeling right now?”

Not:

“How do we make this stop?”

Not:

“What consequence should I give?”

Not even:

“Why are they doing this?”

Because the same behavior can mean very different things.

Defiance may be overwhelm.
Withdrawal may be anxiety.
Procrastination may be fear of failure.
Anger may be covering hurt.

Understanding what’s underneath the behavior doesn’t mean excusing it.

It gives us more information about how to respond.

Curiosity changes conversations.

Behavior is often the clue—not the problem.

When nothing is working, try a new lens.
Join my free monthly parenting class where we explore trying a new lens. Link in bio.

08/23/2026

“We’ve tried everything.”

I hear this from parents all the time.

They’ve tried talking.
Consequences.
Reminders.
More support.
Backing off.
Trying harder.

And they’re exhausted.

But sometimes the next step isn’t another strategy.

It’s a different way of understanding what’s happening.

Because behavior is often the clue—not the problem.

When we get curious about what might be underneath the withdrawal, arguing, procrastination, anxiety, overachieving, or lack of motivation, something shifts.

We stop responding only to the behavior—and start responding to what may be driving it.

When we understand differently, we respond differently.

And that can be the beginning of moving your family forward.

When nothing is working, try a new lens.

If you’re feeling stuck with your teen or young adult, join me for my FREE monthly parenting class: When Nothing Is Working: Try a New Lens on Parenting & Behavior.

đź”— Register through the link in my bio.


08/23/2026

Sometimes what looks like “I don’t care” really means…

“I don’t know where to start.”

What we label as laziness may actually be anxiety.

Perfectionism.

ADHD.

Fear of failing.

Or simply feeling so overwhelmed that starting feels impossible.

That doesn’t mean we ignore responsibilities or remove every expectation.

It means we get curious before we assume we know what the behavior means.

Instead of:

“Why won’t they just do it?”

Try:

“What’s getting in the way?”

Do they know where to start?

Does the task feel too big?

Are they afraid they won’t do it well enough?

Are they missing a skill or support that would help them move forward?

Because when we understand what’s underneath the behavior, we can respond to what they actually need—not just what we see on the surface.

When we change the question, we change the conversation.

When nothing is working… try a new lens.

❤️ Save this for the next time “lazy” is the first explanation that comes to mind.

08/22/2026

Sometimes the child who looks like they’re doing just fine is the child I want us to look at a little more closely.

The helper.

The peacemaker.

The high achiever.

The child who rarely asks for anything.

The one who tells you, “I’m fine.”

Some kids become so good at not being a burden that the people who love them may not realize how much they’re carrying.

Not every struggling child acts out.

Some become quieter.

Some become more helpful.

Some work harder.

Some try to make sure everyone else is okay.

That’s why I encourage parents not to look only at behavior that causes a problem.

Get curious about the behavior that makes life look easy, too.

What pressure might they be carrying?

What aren’t they saying?

What support might they need but not know how to ask for?

Because sometimes what looks like “fine” deserves our curiosity, too.

Behavior is often the clue—not the problem.

When nothing is working, try a new lens.

No blame. No shame. Just FORWARD.

❤️ Save this as a reminder to check on the child who rarely asks you to.

08/21/2026

If you’ve ever thought,

“I feel like I’ve failed my child,”

you’re not alone.

The parents who say those words to me are almost always the ones who care the deepest.

They haven’t given up.

They’re still learning.

Still repairing.

Still showing up.

Sometimes the next step isn’t trying harder.

Sometimes it’s seeing your child—and yourself—through a different lens.

That’s exactly what we’ll explore in my free monthly parent class,

When Nothing Is Working: Try a New Lens on Parenting & Behavior.

No blame. No shame. Just FORWARD.

✨ Free Parent Class

When Nothing Is Working: Try a New Lens on Parenting & Behavior

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