06/17/2026
Today's plant is a Monstera adansonii, often called the Swiss Cheese Plant because of the natural holes in its leaves.
Most people see those holes and think something is missing.
But the truth is, those holes are exactly what make this plant beautiful.
As June 19 approaches, my heart becomes heavier. Grief has a way of doing that. Dates on a calendar can carry a weight that others don't always see. They can bring back memories, moments, conversations, and reminders of the people we love and miss.
My son was murdered on June 19, 2024.
There are some losses that change you forever.
As a therapist, I spend much of my time helping others navigate grief, trauma, anxiety, depression, and life's hardest moments. Yet I have learned that grief is not something we "get over." It is something we learn to carry.
That is one reason I love this Monstera.
Its leaves develop holes as they mature.
The holes are not damage.
They are not defects.
They are part of the plant's design.
Part of its story.
People are much the same.
Loss leaves holes.
Trauma leaves holes.
Heartbreak leaves holes.
The death of a child leaves a space that can never truly be filled.
But those spaces do not mean we are broken.
They become part of our story.
Part of our growth.
Part of who we are.
Many people living with grief feel pressure to "move on" or "be strong." They wonder why they still cry years later, why certain dates hurt, or why memories still bring tears.
The answer is simple.
Because love doesn't end.
Grief is love that no longer has a physical place to go.
In therapy, we work to make room for both grief and life.
Both sadness and joy.
Both memories and hope.
Healing is not forgetting.
Healing is learning how to carry the love forward.
Just like the Monstera, our lives may have holes where something precious once was. Yet we can still grow. We can still reach toward the light. We can still become beautiful despite the spaces left behind.
If you are struggling with grief, anxiety, depression, trauma, ADHD, life transitions, or emotional overwhelm, therapy can help.
You do not have to carry it alone.
🌿 Therapist. ADHD-informed. Growth-focused.
I help individuals build insight, resilience, and meaningful change.
Specializing in ADHD, anxiety, emotional regulation, grief, trauma, and personal growth.
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