05/07/2026
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There are parts of us that want healing to happen faster and dare I say, perfectly?
I'm very familiar with perfectionistic parts, my own and my clients. They're the ones that believe if we just push a little harder, try a little more, get it juuuuust right, we’ll finally arrive somewhere better. And we so badly want to be somewhere better.
But healing doesn’t happen on demand and definitely doesn’t happen when we push ourselves past our threshold.
When we override our limits, even with good intentions, there are other parts that feel it and this can actually slow the healing process down.
What I’m learning again and again is that real change happens in the moments where we don’t push past.
When we notice the edge, the no, the too fast, and choose to slow down instead of override it.
It can feel counterintuitive, like we’re not doing enough or getting anywhere, but that's just not true.
Safety and security are built through consistency, attunement, and respecting our limits.
From that place things can begin to shift in ways that actually last.
I know this to be true because my horse holds me accountable to it daily, whether I like it not 🦄
