05/27/2026
If saying no feels uncomfortable, start smaller than you think.
I often work with clients on practicing “micro-nos.” Like reps at the gym, this helps our nervous system build reps. You may not feel ready to tell your friend or parent, “No,” but you can tell the cashier or the barista. Every small “no” reinforces the message: “My needs can come first and that can still be safe, even when it’s scary.”
Practice saying:
“I’m going to pass.”
“I don’t have capacity for that.”
“Let me get back to you.”
Your body learns safety when you stop abandoning yourself in the small moments first. 🍋