The Untamed Herbalist

09/14/2026

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09/14/2026

The discomfort of others is not our urgency. When you’ve spent your life self abandoning to save other people from their own discomfort, it takes a lot of hard work to unlearn that programming. We don’t need to self abandoning to save other people from feeling. In fact, we can’t save other people from feeling. We just delay their own process by trying to save them from it.

It’s ok for other people to be mad or upset either way you. It’s ok for you to allow people to feel their own discomfort and not run to “fix” it. Maybe it’s time to get curious about why we care more about saving others from discomfort than we do feeling our own. Because the reality is the more we try to save others from their own feelings the less we feel our own.

09/11/2026

Ma’am, with all due respect, where don’t I feel it in my body?! 😭

09/08/2026

I’ve never been called performative, virtue signaling or white knighting by anymore more than I do by yt people. When they disagree with something I say it must be because of some sort of guilt that sits inside me right. Must be because I’m trying to be accepted or get clout right? Couldn’t possibly because I know my history. I know what people like me have done. The violence and harm that has and is still caused in the name of ytness and the patriarchy. Couldn’t be because it’s truly just the right thing to do. That for centuries yt women have not just sat around and not just watched but participated in these horrors. That we have gladly held the systems up that most deeply hurt Black women while shouting feminism. The irony that humanity has been weaponized. That someone could only care about others if we are benefited. When you choose humanity, truth and empathy, you do things because it’s right, not because you get something out of it. Wytness makes you believe only things that impact you matter and that’s exactly how we got where we are today.

09/06/2026

The same thing goes for the patriarchy. Someone didn’t like a response I gave them in the comment section of another creator, they came to my page to say that how I responded wasn’t “very healing” and to that I say; what is your definition of healing? Where did you learn that definition. We decenter ytness here. We learn what it looks like and feels like so we can dismantle it. We don’t center it, which means we don’t center ideologies and definitions that are rooted in it. If your definition of healing is responding in a way you deem respectful, that’s just oppression repackaged. Just because you don’t like the way someone responds to you does not mean they are not healing and that fact that we have gotten tot he pint where we are weaponizing healing is wild!

The more we resist dismantling these systems, both within and without ourselves, the longer we contribute to and participate with the harm they cause. Dismantling doesn’t come comfortably, it is uncomfortable as hell (hello shadow work) and that is exactly why I teach nervous system work and why that work is so necessary alongside our deconstruction journeys.

09/06/2026