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Some of us learned very early that being “easy” was one of the safest ways to move through the world.Be helpful, but not...
08/28/2026

Some of us learned very early that being “easy” was one of the safest ways to move through the world.

Be helpful, but not demanding. Have an opinion, but soften it first. Be successful, but don’t make anyone uncomfortable by acting like you know your worth.

So of course the idea of standing in your power can feel intimidating. If power means being forceful, rigid, or dominating, many of us want absolutely nothing to do with it.

But that isn’t the kind of power I’m talking about.

Real power can be quiet. It can look like letting your opinion exist before checking what everyone else thinks. Finishing your sentence when someone interrupts you. Saying, “I can’t take that on,” without writing a five-page defense of your decision. Accepting a compliment without immediately minimizing your contribution.

And yes, it may feel uncomfortable at first. You might replay the conversation later, worry about your tone, or feel the urge to apologize simply because someone else didn’t love your boundary.

That discomfort doesn’t automatically mean you did something wrong. Sometimes it means you interrupted a pattern that has kept you small for a very long time.

You don’t have to become louder, harder, or less compassionate.

You simply have to stop leaving yourself out of the room.

Your needs, ideas, limits, and desires deserve to take up space alongside everyone else’s.

If this resonates, I wrote more about the hidden cost of being “easy” at work and what it means to step into your power without becoming someone you’re not.

Read the full article at the link in my bio. 🤍
https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/hidden-cost-being-easy-work-tara-greenway-qsa2c

A goal can be right for you and still be pursued in a way that abandons you.Panic can make you productive. It can even m...
08/27/2026

A goal can be right for you and still be pursued in a way that abandons you.

Panic can make you productive. It can even make you look disciplined, driven, and impressive. That is why it is so easy to mistake it for purpose.

But panic says, “Get there faster so you can finally feel safe, worthy, or ahead.”

Purpose says, “Move toward this because it matters but do not leave yourself behind along the way.”

You do not have to lower your standards or stop wanting meaningful things. You may simply need a different relationship with the path.

Ask yourself:

Would I still want this if no one were watching?

What pace would I choose if I trusted that I was not behind?

What would “enough” look like here?

If you are tired of pursuing meaningful goals through pressure, anxiety, or a constantly moving finish line, you do not have to figure out the pattern alone.

During a Get Unstuck Zoom, we can look at what is happening underneath the pressure and begin identifying a more aligned way forward.

Comment UNSTUCK and I’ll send you the information.

Being “easy to work with” can look like a strength. But if it means swallowing your boundaries, softening your ideas, or...
08/26/2026

Being “easy to work with” can look like a strength. But if it means swallowing your boundaries, softening your ideas, or making yourself smaller to keep everyone else comfortable, it comes at a cost.

In the next edition of Beyond What Blocks You, I’m exploring what it really means to stand in your power without becoming louder, harder, or less like yourself.

Read: The Hidden Cost of Being “Easy to Work With”
https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/hidden-cost-being-easy-work-tara-greenway-qsa2c

08/25/2026

When you’re used to being capable, being a beginner can feel surprisingly vulnerable. “I can’t do that” can become a quick way to step away before anyone sees you stumble, ask for help, or admit you don’t know the answer.

For high-achieving women, competence can become part of our identity. We’re accustomed to being the person who knows what to do, figures it out, and keeps things moving. So when something doesn’t come naturally, it can feel easier to decide we simply aren’t good at it.

But adding “yet” doesn’t require false confidence or pretending we’re ready before we are. It simply reminds us that where we are today is not a permanent limit.

“I can’t do that yet” leaves room for practice.
For support.
For the possibility that we might surprise ourselves.

You can be experienced and still learning. You can feel unsure and still be willing to try. You can be uncomfortable and still take the next step.

Sometimes self-trust isn’t knowing for certain that you can do it. Sometimes it’s refusing to let “I can’t” end the conversation.

“The power of yet” is one of the lessons that stayed with me long after high school basketball. I share that story, along with another unforgettable rule from my coach, here https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/rule-taught-me-stop-apologizing-taking-up-space-tara-greenway-k1yuc

08/24/2026

One of the quietest lies women are taught is that, at some point, we should stop changing.

By a certain age, we’re supposed to know exactly who we are, what we want, and where we’re going. We’re expected to settle comfortably into the roles we’ve built and remain recognizable to the people around us.

But what if the life that once fit you no longer does?

Maybe you’re questioning a path you were once certain about. Maybe you’re feeling drawn toward something you can’t fully explain yet. Maybe you’re noticing that the version of you who kept everyone happy, handled everything, and needed very little is becoming harder to maintain.

That doesn’t mean you’re lost. It may mean you’re finally listening.

Becoming more of yourself doesn’t always look like a dramatic reinvention. Sometimes it looks like admitting that you want something different. Setting a boundary you used to avoid. Asking for help. Returning to an old dream. Trying something new without needing to be immediately good at it. Letting yourself be seen in a way that feels more honest.

For many women, this kind of growth can bring guilt. When you’ve spent years being responsible, dependable, and easy to count on, changing can feel as though you’re disappointing the people who were comfortable with the old version of you.

But you are allowed to outgrow roles that required you to abandon parts of yourself. You are allowed to change your mind as you learn more about who you are. You are allowed to want a life that feels like yours, not just one that looks good or keeps everything running smoothly.

There is no deadline for returning to yourself. No age when curiosity becomes inappropriate, desire becomes selfish, or a new beginning becomes unrealistic.

You are not too late. You are not behind. And the person you are becoming is not a rejection of who you have been. She is the continuation of everything you have lived, learned, survived, and finally become ready to claim.

Friend to friend, you are still allowed to surprise yourself.

The hardest part of growth isn’t always the work. Sometimes it’s allowing yourself to be seen before you feel polished.W...
08/21/2026

The hardest part of growth isn’t always the work. Sometimes it’s allowing yourself to be seen before you feel polished.

When you’ve spent years becoming skilled, trusted, and capable, stepping into unfamiliar territory can feel like a loss of identity. Suddenly, you’re asking questions again. Making mistakes. Moving more slowly than you’re used to. It can be tempting to stay where your competence is already proven.

But being a beginner doesn’t erase everything you’ve learned. It means you’re brave enough to carry your experience into a place where you don’t control the outcome yet.

Expansion often looks awkward before it looks impressive. Your next chapter may begin with curiosity, uncertainty, and a willingness to receive help.

You don’t have to be immediately good at something for it to be worth pursuing. Sometimes the next level begins when you stop needing to look like you’ve already arrived.

I share more of what my high school basketball coach taught me about learning, confidence, and taking up space here https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/rule-taught-me-stop-apologizing-taking-up-space-tara-greenway-k1yuc

08/14/2026

You’ve been hard on yourself for so long, you’re not sure you can succeed without the pressure.

For many high-achieving women, the inner critic doesn’t feel like the problem. It feels like the internal drill sergeant responsible for their success.

It pushes you to prepare more, work harder, catch every mistake, and keep raising the standard. So the idea of quieting that voice can feel dangerous.

What if you become complacent? What if your work suffers? What if you stop being the dependable person everyone counts on?

But your inner critic is not the source of your excellence.

Your intelligence, creativity, dedication, and desire to do meaningful work belong to you. Self-criticism may have attached itself to those strengths and taken credit for them, but it did not create them.

There is a difference between high standards and self-punishment.

High standards ask, “What would make this stronger?”

The inner critic asks, “What is wrong with me?”

One leaves room for learning and adjustment. The other keeps you braced, overthinking every decision and chasing a finish line that never stays still.

Fear-based motivation can work. That is what makes it so difficult to release. It may help you reach the next goal, but it can also leave you exhausted and already worried about what comes next.

The next time that critical voice gets loud, ask yourself:

“What am I afraid will happen if I stop pressuring myself?”

Maybe you’re afraid you’ll become lazy, disappoint someone, fall behind, or lose the respect you’ve worked so hard to earn. Your answer can reveal what the pressure has been trying to protect you from.

You do not have to lower your standards to loosen the grip of self-criticism. You can care deeply, create excellent work, and follow through without using fear as your fuel.

Your edge was never the voice tearing you down. It was you all along.

If you’re ready to understand what’s underneath the pressure and find a different way forward, comment “Unstuck” and I’ll send you the link to schedule a free call.

08/10/2026

Have you ever noticed how quickly your mind can turn one disappointing moment into a verdict about your entire life?

A relationship ends, a job doesn’t work out, or someone says no—and before you’ve even had time to process what happened, your mind is already offering the same painful conclusion: “See? Nothing ever works out for me.”

I’m a big believer in feeling your feelings. Let yourself cry, be angry, grieve, and admit that you’re disappointed, because healing doesn’t come from pretending something didn’t hurt. But feeling a hard moment fully is not the same as letting it define your whole story.

When something painful happens, the mind often freeze-frames it. It zooms in so tightly on the loss, rejection, or uncertainty that this one moment begins to feel like the only truth available.

This is your invitation to zoom out.

Your life is not a still photograph; it’s a movie that is still unfolding. There have already been plot twists you couldn’t have predicted, people you’ve loved, dreams you’ve realized, strength you didn’t know you had, and beautiful surprises that arrived only because something else didn’t work out the way you hoped.

There are still more scenes to come—some you will choose, some that will surprise you, and some that may only make sense in hindsight. You’re not simply watching your life unfold; you’re making choices, changing direction, and helping to create what comes next.

So feel what you need to feel without rushing yourself through it. Then, when you’re ready, lift your eyes beyond this one frame and remember:

The story isn’t over yet. 🤍

If you’ve ever apologized before asking a question, setting a boundary, sharing an opinion, or simply taking up space, t...
08/04/2026

If you’ve ever apologized before asking a question, setting a boundary, sharing an opinion, or simply taking up space, this month’s Beyond What Blocks You newsletter is for you.

I’m writing about one of the most memorable rules my high school basketball coach ever gave me and what it taught me about kindness, confidence, people-pleasing, and self-erasure.

Read the full newsletter here: https://www.linkedin.com/build-relation/newsletter-follow?entityUrn=7475599580831711233

Years ago, my high school basketball coach gave our team a rule I still remember:No sorries unless you see blood.At the ...
07/30/2026

Years ago, my high school basketball coach gave our team a rule I still remember:
No sorries unless you see blood.
At the time, it felt almost impossible. Like so many girls, I had been taught to be automatically sorry. Sorry for taking up space, getting in someone’s way, asking for something.
That reflex can follow us into adulthood, relationships, and the workplace. It can sound like, “Sorry to interrupt,” “Sorry if this is a silly question,” or “Sorry to bug you, just wanted to follow up.”

But not every need, boundary, opinion, or ambition requires an apology.

This month in Beyond What Blocks You, I’m writing about what my basketball coach taught me about taking up space, the power of “yet,” and how to be kind without erasing yourself.

Read the newsletter & subscribe here: https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/rule-taught-me-stop-apologizing-taking-up-space-tara-greenway-k1yuc

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