06/12/2026
I remember when this finally sank in.
When the light bulb finally clicked.
I was in the middle of taking a shower (of course the best place for big ideas to come through, especially as a parent)
And I was like "OMG, it's on me. Like its actually all on me."
Now this wasn't taking on of other people's s**t or blaming myself in a harmful, self-depricating way.
This was like omg I let myself be treated this way. I chose to stay when I could have left. I chose not to have boundaries. I chose to keep saying yes when I really wanted to say no. I chose to push myself beyond when my body said no. This was all my fault.
ALL MY RESPONSIBILITY.
This is not victim blaming. Nor saying the people or circumstances didnt have their own part to play.
This is not gas lighting or bypassing.
This is not ignoring the facts, underlying beliefs, lack of resources that often kept me stuck.
The energy in this moment was like holy s**t I have so much power and choice in my life that I literally couldn't see before because I was so entangled in the mess.
And if I would have chosen something different I would have been somewhere experiencing something completely different.
I could not have gotten there with out the deep support of my therapist, my family, my dear friends, and lots of somatic and subconscious work to peel back those layers and disconnect from the mess.
This is the power of nervous system regulation and support. Because taking responsibility on its own is honestly not enough.
This is the work we aim to do with in the Inner Compass Journey.
To reclaim your sovereignty. To help you create, maintain, and strengthen your inner and outer resources. And to create a life that deeply holds and nourishes you, just as much as you do for those you love.
If you're looking for deep support that integrates somatics, subconscious, and embodied transformation with actual action so your life looks different on the outside and not just on the inside....
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Cant wait to connect with you!