06/15/2026
Message of the Week Favorite from Master Abossein
“The Path To Effectiveness”!
Have you ever experienced that sometimes there are a lot of actions and efforts in our transactions without being effective? It seems that a lot of energy and efforts are used but without producing results or having accomplishments.
Effectiveness can apply to all our personal, social, business, political and all our transactions. Our methods to be effective or not have the tendency to become our habits and soon become a part of our personality and how we view and accomplish everything.
We are most effective when the desired result is 100% complete, meeting a certain criteria and utilizing the minimum amount of needed effort as the required input energy.
We become goal oriented and will get the job done and excel in whatever we put our focus on when we are considered to be effective. When we are not effective; we may be qualified as being failures, being busy bodies and being unreliable, since we can not show results nor complete a task impacting our accountability per our promises.
Stephen Covey in his best seller’s book “the 7 habits of most effective people” describes the most essential habits of being effective as; Responsibility, Vision, Integrity, Mutual Respect, Mutual Understanding, Creative Cooperation, Renewals and finally in his new book the 8th habit, being able to move from effectiveness to greatness.
Since effectiveness can only be measured by each person individually, the question arises; “what is considered to be effective?”. A great parent may be very effective in being a parent but this may create infectiveness in other areas of his or her life. Or the opposite; being very effective at work where this may cause ineffectiveness in the personal relationships.
The answer to the above lies in the “clarity” within ourselves and applying the 7 habits internally first before projecting it to the outside world. Clarity comes from understanding what we truly want and be happy with it since that will be 100% effective regardless of how it may be interpreted by the outsiders. If the intention is to have fun going to a game then wining is no longer important. The effectiveness of having fun is 100% and effectiveness of winning has less value. Wining would be an icing on the cake and its absence will have no impact on the cake as a whole.
However, if going to the game with that intention produces a loss creating unresolved hurt and disappointment then that will show lack of clarity about our intentions due to personal confusion.
Flirting with an idea with no firm determination to get results has a different dynamics than getting it done under all circumstances to be most effective. This does not mean that we should not follow the rule of measuring twice and cutting it once by gathering all the required information before making a decision. Not following through with an idea with 100% ineffectiveness after gathering information supporting lack of good results will be interpreted as total effectiveness due to making the wise choices.
The key to identifying our clarity for the purpose of measuring our effectiveness properly may be the overlap voice that is created by 4 pillars of our talent, conscious, passion and need. “What we are good at”, “what we believe is the right thing to do”, ‘what we love doing” and “what we qualify as being necessary to accomplish what is desired” will determine that measuring bar. Our effectiveness can be evaluated under the above criterion producing happiness, joy and satisfaction regardless of conditions and with 100% effectiveness.
“Effective people are not problem minded; they’re opportunity minded. They feed opportunities and starve problems.”
Alex Abossein,
InnerFit, Oasis For Perfect Health