Pure Heart and Mind Psychotherapy LLC

07/01/2026

Signs of autism in girls infographic !

06/03/2026

https://www.childrensmentalhealthmatters.org/find-help/countyresources/

If you are worried about your child’s emotions or behavior, you can start by talking to friends, family members, your spiritual counselor, your child’s school counselor, or your child’s pediatrician/family […]

06/02/2026

06/02/2026

Free Parent Conference

04/10/2026

Some children seek more… some need less.

What looks like “too much energy” or “being fussy” is often something deeper — a nervous system trying to find balance. Some children move, crash, and touch everything because their body needs more input. Others withdraw, cover their ears, or avoid situations because it all feels too overwhelming.

When we understand sensory needs, behaviour starts to make sense. And when behaviour makes sense, we can support instead of correct.

04/02/2026

Ever noticed how some children seem completely fine at school… but as soon as they get home, everything spills out?

What looks like “they’re fine all day” is often a sign they’ve been working incredibly hard to hold themselves together.

From a neurodevelopmental perspective, this is restraint collapse.

Throughout the day, a child is using executive functions to:

suppress impulses
manage expectations
navigate social demands
regulate sensory and emotional input

That level of continuous inhibition isn’t neutral—it’s taxing. It draws heavily on prefrontal resources and requires constant top-down regulation.

By the time they reach a safer, lower-demand environment (like home), the system can no longer sustain that level of control.

What follows isn’t defiance or manipulation.
It’s a nervous system discharging accumulated load.

This is why the intensity is often higher at home:
Home is where the child feels safe enough to let go.

The shift in how we respond matters.
Instead of asking:

“Why can’t they hold it together here?”
We can ask:

“What has it taken for them to hold it together elsewhere?”

Because if we only respond to the behaviour we see at home, we miss the context that created it.

Support in these moments isn’t about tightening control—it’s about reducing load and restoring regulation:

lowering demands
offering co-regulation
allowing decompression without expectation
recognising that capacity has limits

Behaviour is not just about the moment.

It’s about the system that came before it.

If this perspective resonates, you’ll find more in my book The Therapist Parent:
👉 www.thetherapistparent.com⁠�

03/31/2026

Does you little struggle with managing their emotions? Consider signing them up for The Bounce Back Brigade as we work together to become emotionally resilient through fun and engaging activities!

03/30/2026

Is your Little starting Kindergarten in the Fall? Have them join the Kindergarten Picnic! We will learn the social skills needed to be successful their first year in grade school in a fun and engaging way! Come on down and play with us! Spaces are limited!

08/03/2025

Everyone is fighting battles you can’t always see. Let’s be kind, listen without judgment and support one another. 💙 🩵💙

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