With Love Elizabeth Hulsey

05/28/2026

And my advice is ALWAYS the same.

We’re the kind of family that tends to opt out of systems that don’t align with us. We pay attention. We ask questions. We know we have choices.

So my advice? Find a family medicine doctor with aligned views.

Most of the time when one of us is sick, we all are. One appointment for the whole family while everyone feels terrible? Yes please.

Beyond that, we support a lot at home with nutrition, herbs, homeopathy, rest, and time.

It’s what works for us.

But realistically, you’d probably have to pay me money to step foot in a pediatrician’s office again.

Have you found a doctor that actually aligns with your family’s values?

04/24/2026

My dear friend and client is walking through something no parent should ever have to face. Right now, the most meaningful thing we can do is rally around her and her family.
If you’re local to Sandpoint or even if you’re not, please consider taking a moment to support them. They are held by such a beautiful community, and if you’ve ever met Chelsea, you know she is one of the most kind, generous, and selfless people.

Her strength over this past week has been nothing short of extraordinary. Even in the midst of unimaginable heartache, she continues to check on and care for others.

That’s who she is.

Any contribution, big or small, truly makes a difference and helps support their family during this time.

And beyond donations, please continue to pray. Each morning I hold her sweet son and their entire family in prayer, asking for peace, comfort, and healing to surround them.

Thank you so much for your love, your prayers, and anything you feel called to give.

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04/03/2026

I haven’t really shared this publicly but I feel called to today.

It’s Good Friday and I’ve been reflecting on sacrifice, faith, and what it means to come back home to God.

I’ve been on a journey back to my faith.

And I want to be very clear about something that matters deeply to me in my work and in how I hold people.

I meet people where they are.

I understand that for many, faith comes with wounds. Often from experiences with religion or people who have carried it in a way that felt self righteous, rigid, or unsafe.

I get that.

My return to faith has been messy until it wasn’t.

There were seasons where I needed more distance and softer language. Things like nature, universe, or something greater. As I healed my own wounds around religion and faith. And now I’m finding my way back to God in a more grounded and rooted way.
My work, especially around birth and motherhood, has always included a sense that we are not doing this alone. That there is something greater holding us. And I still believe that.

What’s become more true for me lately is that I can’t separate my faith from who I am or how I show up anymore. It’s woven in.

And still I will always meet you where you are.
Because I don’t believe healing, motherhood, or birth requires a perfect relationship with faith.

It requires support. Presence. And something steady to hold onto when things feel bigger than us.

Sometimes coming back to yourself looks like faith.
Sometimes it looks like returning to God.
Sometimes it looks like finding your way through where you are right now.

I believe all of it can lead you home.

Wherever you are today I hope you feel held, supported, and deeply loved and if your heart has been softening or feeling a call back to a deeper sense of faith I hope you feel open to whatever that journey looks like for you.

02/23/2026

Some posts are just meant to scare you. You know the ones, stats thrown out of context, advice that doesn’t make sense for your body, and headlines that make birth feel impossible before it even starts.

Then it hits me. Women are waking up to how the system often works against them. And that is exactly why I do what I do. I work hard to help women get the care they actually need. Evidence-based, person-centered, and supportive.

Birth does not have to be scary. Postpartum does not have to feel isolating. You can feel held, informed, and confident every step of the way.

So if you have ever rolled your eyes at the fear-mongering posts, remember you do not have to navigate this alone. There is a better way, one that honors your body, your choices, and your experience. 💛

Make sure to follow and subscribe so you can see the right kind of content leading up to your birth. We don’t demonize the miracle of life or the power women embody as life givers.

And a HUGE shoutout to the amazing OB’s who are changing the conversation by telling the other side of the story. .billchun

Not all OB’s are blind to the problems in the system and we’re blessed to have them forging a different path.

02/19/2026

Sometimes we tuck fears and anxieties away during pregnancy, thinking we’ll deal with them later or that we have to appear calm. The truth is, birth has a way of bringing these feelings to the surface.

Fears about pain, about our bodies failing, about our babies’ safety, or about losing control can show up in labor in ways we didn’t expect. Sometimes it comes as tension in the body, a racing mind, or moments of doubt in the middle of a contraction. Other times it’s the quiet worry that we didn’t prepare enough or that we’re not doing it “right.”

That’s why processing these fears safely, whether through conversation, journaling, breath work, or guided support, is so important. You don’t have to share everything with the world, but you do need to make space for what’s inside you.

Birth asks us to show up fully, honestly, and courageously. When we do that, we step into clarity, confidence, and the kind of support that matters most.

Every choice matters. How do you decide what feels right for you?

02/06/2026

These are the things I stand on because I’ve sat with too many women who walked into birth feeling small, scared, or silenced.

And I’m done watching that happen.

I believe your choices matter because I’ve seen what happens when people try to make them for you.
I believe your voice matters because so many moms were taught to quiet it.
I believe your body knows what it’s doing, even when the world around you doesn’t trust it.
I believe your nervous system tells the truth before your mouth ever speaks.
I believe faith holds you in the places logic can’t reach.

You don’t need more pressure.
You don’t need more fear.
You don’t need another person telling you how you should feel or what you should want.
You need someone who sees the whole story you carry.

Who understands the way trauma shows up in a birth room.
Who knows how to protect your peace when you can’t find your words.
Who’s not afraid of the intensity you’re walking into.
If reading this makes something in your chest loosen…

If you feel yourself exhale without meaning to…
If you want birth prep that meets you where you actually are, not where you “should” be…

Reach out.
We will take it from there.

Just you, your baby, and support that actually honors you.

thanks for the inspo, the best social media “doula” in the biz. 🫶🏽

02/05/2026

When a woman with trauma tells me her plan for birth, I’m not listening for how “strong” she thinks she needs to be.

I’m listening for the patterns her body has learned to survive.

Because trauma doesn’t show up as weakness in birth.
It shows up as habits
the protective ones
the quiet ones
the ones she doesn’t always realize she’s carrying.

None of this disqualifies her from a powerful birth.
It simply shows me where the real work begins.

The women with trauma who truly succeed aren’t the ones who “tough it out.”
They’re the ones who learn how their nervous system responds under pressure.
They build safety into their plan.
They practice letting people help.
They get honest about what might pull them into old patterns
and they prepare for those moments with support, not self-blame.

You’re learning patterns that will actually support you, not the ones you had to use to get through life.

Birth isn’t where trauma wins.
Birth is where your story starts to shift.

If you’re walking into birth with a history your body still remembers, you’re not behind and you’re not broken.
You just need preparation that matches your lived experience.

And you don’t have to figure it out alone.

🌿 If you’re breaking a cycle through birth, I’m here.
Send me a message or explore the link in my bio.

02/05/2026

When a woman with trauma tells me her plan for birth, I’m not listening for how “strong” she thinks she needs to be.

I’m listening for the patterns her body has learned to survive. The patterns most likely to betray her in birth.

Because trauma doesn’t show up as weakness in birth.
It shows up as habits
the protective ones
the quiet ones
the ones she doesn’t always realize she’s carrying.

None of this disqualifies you from a powerful birth.
It simply shows me where the real work begins.

The women with trauma who truly succeed aren’t the ones who “tough it out.”
They’re the ones who learn how their nervous system responds under pressure.
They build safety into their plan.
They practice letting people help.
They get honest about what might pull them into old patterns
and they prepare for those moments with support, not self-blame.

You’re learning patterns that will actually support you not the ones you had to use to get through life.

Birth isn’t where trauma wins.
Birth is where your story starts to shift.

If you’re walking into birth with a history your body still remembers, you’re not behind and you’re not broken.
You just need preparation that matches your lived experience.

And you don’t have to figure it out alone.

🌿 If you’re breaking a cycle through birth, I’m here.
Send me a message or explore the link in my bio.

01/28/2026

I’ve carried blame for things that weren’t mine and ignored the parts I could actually change.

I didn’t walk into birth empowered.
I walked in already practiced at assuming I was the problem.

We were out of state.
It was the pandemic.
We had emergency-only insurance.
Out-of-hospital birth wasn’t a belief. It was the only option.

So I chose a midwife and did the best I could inside a very narrow set of choices.

When things got intense, the familiar pattern showed up.
Rushing.
Being coached to push.
A boundary crossed when I was already vulnerable.

When the transfer happened and I ended up with a C-section, the story I carried wasn’t just grief.

It was blame.

Why does this always happen to me?
What did I do wrong?

For the first time, something shifted.
Not into denial.
Not into “nothing was my responsibility.”
But into clarity.

There were parts I was accountable for.
And there were parts that were never mine to carry.
The harm wasn’t in having responsibility.

It was in taking responsibility for things that weren’t mine.

In blaming myself for the actions of others, the urgency of the system, the moments my consent was ignored.

Trauma-attuned care isn’t about erasing agency.
It’s about restoring it without shame.

It’s about identifying what we can change without turning ourselves into the villain for what we couldn’t.

Strength, for me, was learning how to tell the difference.

If you’ve ever blamed yourself for something that wasn’t yours to hold, repost this so someone else can see it sooner than you did.

Follow for trauma-attuned birth care that holds accountability without shame.

01/02/2026

Healing, energy, and preparation aren’t add-ons to birth. They are foundational.

Healing, for me, has been a lifelong process. I’m always integrating new pieces, noticing old stories, and changing the landscape of my nervous system. It’s incredible how much we can carry without realizing it. Stories like something is wrong with me or it’s not safe for me to feel. Stories that once kept us safe but can keep us stuck in hyper-vigilance long after the threat is gone.

It doesn’t mean we’re broken. Even the belief that we shouldn’t need support can quietly create more suffering.

If we can’t gently notice when something needs to shift without our defenses rising, surrender becomes almost impossible. In birth. And in motherhood.

Our minds can understand this. We can have all the information. But change doesn’t happen until the nervous system feels safe enough to agree.
This is the work I do. This is the work that creates real, lasting impact.

I see it in my clients again and again. Not because birth always goes the way we plan, but because they know, deeply, that they showed up with awareness, agency, and trust in themselves. Even repeat cesarean mothers leave feeling more grounded, more at peace, and more whole in their experience. That kind of integration changes everything.

Follow me if you want to see what real transformation in birth and motherhood looks like.