Jessica Malmberg Psychotherapy

Jessica Malmberg Psychotherapy Supporting pregnancy loss, infant loss, fertility challenges and IVF with grief and trauma psychotherapy. Also supporting kids and teens.

08/28/2026

I Carry Your Heart With Me (I Carry It In)
Song by
E.E. Cummings


i carry your heart with me(i carry it in
my heart)i am never without it(anywhere
i go you go, my dear; and whatever is done
by only me is your doing, my darling)
i fear
no fate(for you are my fate, my sweet)i want
no world(for beautiful you are my world, my true)
and it’s you are whatever a moon has always meant
and whatever a sun will always sing is you
here is the deepest secret nobody knows
(here is the root of the root and the bud of the bud
and the sky of the sky of a tree called life; which grows
higher than soul can hope or mind can hide)
and this is the wonder that’s keeping the stars apart
i carry your heart(i carry it in my heart)

May this poem comfort you and give you a path for loving all your life.

babyloss tendinggrief SIDSsupport

08/28/2026

When we are in a deep place of sorrow,
In the wake of losing a pregnancy, a child or a partner or anyone close to you,

We get slowed down.
We are heavy and quiet
and it’s hard to keep up with the frenetic pace of modern life.

And there is a beauty in this.
A chance to hear the birds and watch them for longer than you usually might.
There is an opening to smell the grasses,
To notice the change of moisture in the air.

All these elements we notice
Are also there for us,
With us in the bigger picture of things.

This is a gift of grieving. 
Seeing ourselves in a great network of things.
That there is so much life around us
To help us hold the death or loss we are feeling.
Not to pop us out of it,
But to be WITH it, with support.

grieftending

08/21/2026

When your child dies before you it feels like the whole universe is upside down.

Because you are so attached to them in heart and body, it feels like there is no order anymore, and if there isn’t enough support for you, you can really feel like you are on the outside of the movements and rhythm of the entire cosmos.

This isn’t because you don’t deserve a place here anymore.

When it comes to big sorrow our culture really doesn’t have the elders, ground and practices that we know in our bones, to lean on when we go through such a big loss.

We don’t keen together. We don’t have a tradition of deep support of community through loss. We don’t have substantial rituals that guides the sorrow as a community.

If you had these things, you might know that it is not that you are outcast and floating,
But that your heart is broken and that you need support and guidance through a time of the explosion of your world.

You still belong here. You still belong to the trees and the ocean, to the moon at night and the sun in the day. To your circle of friends, and family.

May you feel the connection, care and help that you absolutely deserve through this time.

Do you want to join me for a grief-tending group that meets weekly and builds this road together? DM me or follow the link in the bio.

08/19/2026

When someone says “Have faith” when you’re pregnant after a loss,
(I know they absolutely mean well)
But it can feel impossible after walking through the shock and deep sorrow of pregnancy, infant and toddler loss.

You are not weak for feeling deeply anxious.

I encourage my clients to invite their worry right in, and let it sit next to them.

I invite them to invite their sorrow, their anger, their love and their hope, to all be there together.

We can only go one slow step at a time. And I KNOW this is such a slow process.

One step, one breath at a time, we welcome all of these real and important feelings and insights.

One step, one breath at a time, we make it through today.

We savor what we can, we feel what is there. We make no guarantees. And we make room for a little bit of that part that can imagine how real it is that babies do survive, and births can go well. Even if you can hold that for 3 seconds, you’re building a place of possibility.

sacredsorrows welcomingthewholeself

08/13/2026

Anniversaries carry weight

They bring us physically back to the waters of grief and the heaviness, the love, the missing.

You deserve support for this time, so you can be with it, be present with it.

These days of return have so much importance and help us understand what we have walked through and how we want to carry this forward.

I wrote a blog about this and you can read it on my site, the link is in the bio.

I wish you space, love, permission to be slow on these days.

anniversarygrief

08/07/2026

Anniversaries of the loss of your baby are hard. And they are important.
May you feel space to be slower and sadder than usual.
May you take the time to tend to this experience that has shaped you and your heart. May you ask for help. And may you feel honored for the strength of your love for this child. I’m tiring a blog post that will be posted soon on this topic.

If you know meChances are we’ve talked about the Sylkie myth.The soul-depth of the sea.The importance of returning again...
08/02/2026

If you know me
Chances are we’ve talked about the Sylkie myth.

The soul-depth of the sea.

The importance of returning again and again to the cool, deep waters of our inner and outer spaces.

To breathe. To feel small among the grand ancient movements. To pay homage to home.

As mamas and women, we NEED this. As mamas and parents who live a child who has passed beyond, it is essential.

Time to watch the waves and be shifted by the long movements, the sounds. The swooping flight of pelicans. The calls of gulls.

I got to soak up the beauty of the ocean on this big day, of turning 50. I get to be with all that is in my heart. I talk to my son. I think about my living kids and the ever changing coarse of life.

I feel the ache of it all, the beauty, the sorrow. And I write.

This is me getting into my seal skin and going home to my wild self, listening to all of her colors and songs. Any mama who has lost a pregnancy or child needs space and time to return to all of these places, touch them, know how they continue to shape our deep places, our hearts.

I celebrate this big moment of turning 50, I hold close all the twists and turns of life and return home to family and community I’m so grateful to be a part of.

stillbirth

05/08/2026

We get to keep loving them.
We don’t have to put the pictures away

We don’t have to move on

We keep growing in our own hearts, with them.

How do we do this?

We find out one day at a time, one step at a time.

We keep our hearts open

We keep our grief warm.

Now research shows that an ongoing inner relationship with our loved ones who have died is beneficial to us.

Which has always seemed so true to me.

Now we get to hold it even in western thought.

05/03/2026

When we carry an unbearable loss, being in nature, a meadow, trees, waters, can help us with each step. Without words of wisdom, without advice, the bigger picture of who we are and where we come from can come forward. We feel through our feet, through the earth, the ancient turning of days, of seasons, we feel the layers of time and ancestors, we hear the song of the living birds and breeze, not to cheer us up but to BE with what is. I personally love to walk with my grief, to touch the grasses and be in this place of such deep understanding of all the aspects of life, all the iterations of heart and being. When our lives blast apart, there are still the hills. Not everyone feels the comfort of the outside. Some may find it quietly at home, staring at a fire or at the way the light moves on the wall. Wherever we find our time to be held and be with our hearts in loss, it is so important that we allow it, that we make room for this. It allows the alchemy to what we carry to slowly slowly move. It allows us to be with the ache of our bodies, with the longing for the child we love and miss, to be full and real there.

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