07/25/2019
"I'm a terrible mother"
"Wow, I suck at this."
"I'm a bad mom."
At some point your inner critic has chimed in to tell you just how sh*tty you are doing. But she was lying. You are doing great.
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If you, like me and most humans I know, suffer from perfectionism, then chances are you hear this voice a lot. About all sorts of stuff. The food you feed your kid. The time you spent away from them. That you threw your headphones in instead of talking to them. And basically any time you aren't 100% attentive, calm, present, and creating the perfect learning environment for them.
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But that critic is a lier. You are doing great. And not only are you doing great, but whatever time you took for yourself or shortcut you took that made you feel sh*tty, probably was helping you out in the long run. We can't show up for them ever, if we aren't showing up for ourselves as well.
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So the next time that critic tells you you're a bad mom, try to remember that it's wrong. Or if maybe, in that moment you are less than perfect, let that be okay. Let if be absolutely fine that you threw your kid a bar in the back seat, closed the door to your bedroom to keep them out, stayed home instead of making it to the zoo, or even lost your cool. Forgive yourself and embrace the wholeness of your experience. You are perfect as you are.
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