05/14/2026
Can I let you in on a secret?
Grief sucks. It really does. I mean… who looks forward to that?
But I think it’s safe to say we’ve all been through it, especially with the loss of a loved one, a friend, a family member, or even a furry friend.
But what about the loss of our sense of reality?
Realizing that what we thought was real… maybe really isn’t.
Being told to accept a “new normal.”
Triggering, isn’t it?
The grief of losing the world we thought we understood.
I can remember being a kid, going outside as soon as we got home from school, playing in the woods, coming home when it started getting dark, eating dinner, doing homework, maybe playing some Super Nintendo, and then going to bed.
It was safe.
It felt safe.
And sometimes I miss the simplicity and sense of security many of us grew up with.
So many people are quietly carrying the loss of perceived stability:
• realizing some things we believed in were an illusion
• feeling like no one is truly coming to “save” us
• questioning systems we once trusted
• wondering, “What did I believe the world was?”
That s**t hurts.
And for many people, that includes a loss of trust:
• trust in institutions
• trust in people in power
• trust in systems meant to protect us
• trust in parts of the medical system after difficult, dismissive, traumatic, or eye-opening experiences
(I’ve experienced this myself in the past couple of weeks, seeing just how broken parts of the system truly are. And this is not a dig at the healthcare workers who are genuinely putting their all into helping people. Some are absolutely incredible. But others seem completely disconnected and couldn’t give a damn, and that emotional contrast is hard to ignore.)
• trust in the funeral industry, healthcare, media, and even each other
The past few weeks especially have reminded me how vulnerable people can feel when they believe they are not being heard, advocated for, or treated with compassion during some of life’s hardest moments.
That kind of emotional rupture changes people.
It creates:
Fear.
Hypervigilance.
Isolation.
Division.
And deep exhaustion.
But it also explains why so many people are searching for something more human again.
This is partly why death doulas, grief work, and holistic support matter so much to me.
People want autonomy.
They want understanding.
They want to feel seen, informed, empowered, and emotionally safe while navigating uncertainty, grief, illness, caregiving, or end-of-life decisions.
People are not just grieving people.
They are grieving:
Certainty.
Trust.
Safety.
The version of life they thought existed.
And honestly?
I think more people are carrying this than we realize.
So how do we begin to heal?
By talking about it.
Expressing it.
Maybe it’s meditating.
Maybe it’s writing things down.
Maybe it’s finally letting that anger and frustration out.
Maybe it’s screaming in your car.
Crying in the shower.
Doing a rage room (which I’ve heard are incredibly therapeutic).
Or helping others in whatever way you can.
Whatever it is, you are not alone.
We are all going through it in one form or another. 💜
I’ll be going live on Facebook soon to talk more about this, because I know so many people are carrying these feelings silently right now.
If this resonates with you, know that you are not alone in this either.
For those who feel called to explore this conversation more deeply, I’ll also be hosting my upcoming virtual class:
“Grieving the World We Knew: Processing Societal Change as Collective Grief”
📅 May 27 at 7 PM EST
📍 Virtual via Zoom
This space is designed to gently explore collective grief, loss of trust, emotional exhaustion, and how we begin reconnecting with ourselves and each other again.
You are not alone in this. 💜
Tickets / Info:
https://www.eventbrite.com/e/grieving-the-world-we-knew-processing-societal-change-as-collective-grief-tickets-1987374639044?aff=ebdsshother&utm_share_source=listing_android&sg=42f7504b410a216cf4409af6a383c442b036ffb63f9dd560a14508f262ab0e58a5f6c8471242848f819a0195238b343552aad0e79a87a6688bc7e044d4287ab9127f44ddaad6d32e237f7b5b65
