08/14/2026
Life Beyond the Call
⚰️Helping Funeral Professionals Create Healthier Boundaries Without Losing Themselves in the Career They Love
⚱️Because you can love funeral service without sacrificing yourself to funeral service.
How I Started My Own Journey With Boundaries in the Funeral Industry
Picture it, Sicily 1948... okay, NOT really, but you get the Golden Girls reference.
My life changed in July of 2019.
I was let go from my job of almost 11 years at a family-owned funeral home. I had been there fresh out of my apprenticeship and while getting my license. I didn't even know I wanted to be a funeral director until the spring of 2006, but you can read that story here.
I didn't know what to think. I was shocked, heartbroken, scared, felt worthless, but mostly I was just in shock. I went home and slept for the next few days.
But something strange also happened.
I felt a weird sense of relief, and that realization terrified me.
If losing my job brought relief instead of panic, something was deeply wrong. Looking back now, I know exactly what it was.
I was completely burned out.
For the first time, I didn't have to worry about being on call literally 50% of the time. I didn't have to worry about driving to the other end of the state in the middle of the night.
Coincidentally... or maybe not... this was when I started working with an energy practitioner and coach. Looking back, I see that as the beginning of my healing journey, even though I didn't realize it at the time.
I had wandered into a small crystal shop filled with spiritual items. It felt like a spiritual Toys "R" Us. The energy in that space was unlike anything I had experienced before. It just felt peaceful, welcoming, and light.
That's where I met the energy practitioner who would later become my mentor. My first Reiki session felt incredible. It didn't magically change my life overnight, but it opened the door.
I kept going back, and with each session I learned more about myself. I realized I wasn't just receiving energy healing. I was beginning a deep journey inward, facing parts of myself I had buried for years and starting the work of healing them.
One thing I realized was that I was carrying a tremendous amount of anger, shame, and guilt. Within three years, I lost all three of my dogs. To anyone who knows me, they were my children. Penelope's loss brought me to my knees. Through energy work and the support of someone guiding me, I was finally able to forgive myself and let go of the guilt I'd been carrying.
It was also the beginning of realizing that if I wanted to continue showing up for everyone else, I first had to learn how to show up for myself.
Oh, did I mention my profession was being a funeral director?
It's one of the most rewarding jobs anyone can have. It's also extremely demanding.
Being on call every other day meant that anytime I went out, even just for dinner, I knew there was a chance of getting called out and having to rush to pack up a doggy bag and leave. Dates came with the expectation that my phone might ring and why I always had to keep it close by.
I would go to work sick and then be sent home instead of calling in. I traveled through snowstorms in the middle of the night, which meant making sure I had a car capable of driving in treacherous conditions.
Sometimes I even canceled doctor's appointments.
My health was in the toilet too, despite having an excellent doctor and getting some things under control.
I didn't realize how much of myself I had lost over the years. I didn't know who I was outside of work.
I had to learn to LIVE again.
Weird, right?
I had to rediscover my own self-worth and self-respect. There was one more major thing I had to learn, something I wasn't familiar with at all... boundaries.
Boundaries?
Those did NOT exist in my world
Plans with friends? Sure, but have your phone with you.
A date? Sure, but have your phone with you.
A snowstorm? Better have a reliable car because you still had to get to work.
I was the "yes" person. I didn't want to let anyone down, but in the process, I was letting down the one person who needed me most: myself.
I was so focused on not disappointing everyone else that I was constantly disappointing myself.
I had to start with tiny steps.
Taking a break from the funeral industry gave me the mental space I desperately needed. Then I had to learn how to say no to things I didn't want to do, places I didn't want to go, and even plans with friends.
Most importantly, I had to learn that saying no didn't have to come with guilt.
I also made a promise to myself that I wouldn't let any job or career control my life.
Healing didn't happen overnight.
It started with tiny steps.
Learning how to say no.
Learning not to feel guilty for saying no.
Learning that resting wasn't lazy.
Learning that my worth wasn't measured by how much I sacrificed myself for everyone else.
As I continued my healing journey, I immersed myself in learning about energy work, grief, healthier habits, somatic work, nervous system regulation, and eventually acquiring my certification as an end-of-life doula.
The deeper I went, the more I realized something.
Burnout didn't happen to me overnight.
It happened one "yes" at a time.
Burnout was not the real issue.
The lack of boundaries wasn't the real problem either.
The deeper issue was that I hadn't yet learned that my needs mattered just as much as everyone else's.
Since late 2019, I've worked at a couple of other funeral homes, worked as a security guard, worked at an emergency veterinary hospital as a pet mortician, and created my own business, Beyond Infinity, RI in 2022.
I've now been at a funeral home for several years where we have a good work-life balance. We help each other out, we take our days off, and it truly feels like a little funeral home family.
Over the last seven years, I've continued doing my own work while learning more about energy work, grief, somatic practices, healthier living, nervous system regulation, animal Reiki, and end-of-life care.
But just as importantly, I've learned how to stand in my own integrity, advocate for myself, and hold boundaries even when it feels uncomfortable.
I had to "lose" something before finding myself again.
I've seen so many stories from funeral directors and other death-care professionals who are tired, burned out, overwhelmed, or feeling like they have nowhere to go and no idea what to do next.
That's ultimately what led me here.
Why I Created This Mentorship
I'm offering a one-on-one mentorship for funeral directors and embalmers who want support creating healthier boundaries, advocating for themselves, and building a more sustainable relationship with the profession.
Over the last seven years, I've been immersed in learning more about energy work, somatic work, healthier living, grief, nervous system regulation, and end-of-life care.
I've also learned how to stand in my integrity, even when it feels uncomfortable.
Now I want to help other death-care professionals do the same.
Who This Mentorship Is For
⚰️ This mentorship is for you if you are:
⚰️ A newly licensed or seasoned funeral director or embalmer looking to build healthier boundaries and create a more sustainable career.
⚰️ Feeling burned out, emotionally exhausted, or overwhelmed by the demands of the profession.
⚰️ Struggling to speak up, advocate for yourself, or confidently set healthy boundaries.
⚰️ Ready to stop bringing work home with you and create a healthier balance between your career and personal life.
⚰️ Looking for guidance, accountability, and practical tools to care for yourself while continuing to care for others.
⚰️ Ready to keep your work at work and serious about becoming more assertive and creating boundaries that actually stick.
Who This Mentorship Is Not For
🪦 This mentorship may not be the right fit if you:
🪦 Aren't willing to put in the work or aren't open to coaching.
🪦 Aren't interested in personal growth or making meaningful changes.
🪦 Aren't willing to prioritize your own well-being and self-care.
🪦 Have no desire to establish healthier boundaries between your work and personal life.
🪦 Feel it's your responsibility to fix everyone or do everyone else's job.
What We'll Work On Together
1:1 Coaching
We'll work through real situations as they come up, including speaking up for yourself, navigating uncomfortable conversations professionally, becoming more assertive, establishing boundaries, and learning how to maintain them without feeling guilty.
We'll also use journaling prompts and other tools to help you recognize patterns that may be contributing to burnout, people pleasing, or difficulty advocating for yourself.
If I believe what you're experiencing is beyond the scope of mentorship or you're dealing with severe burnout that requires additional support, I will help point you toward appropriate professional resources.
Energy Work
For those who are open to it, we can incorporate Integrated Energy Therapy, IET, and energy healing into our work together.
Energy work was a game changer for me during my own healing journey and can be used as another supportive tool to help you feel more grounded, clear, and connected to yourself.
Between Session Support
You'll also have access to me through Telegram 2 to 3 days per week between sessions.
This gives us the opportunity to work through situations when they actually come up instead of waiting until our next session
Your Mentorship Includes
1:1 coaching sessions.
Energy healing sessions.
Telegram support 2 to 3 days per week.
Journaling prompts and exercises.
Support navigating real workplace situations as they arise.
Access to my prerecorded Boundaries Are Sexy course.
You Don't Have to Be Completely Burned Out
You don't have to wait until you're completely burned out to benefit from this mentorship.
Maybe you're already exhausted and know something has to change.
Or maybe you're beginning to recognize the warning signs and don't want to reach the point I did.
And no, I'm not here to tell you to quit the funeral or death care industry.
I'm here to help you build a life where you can continue doing the work you love without losing yourself in the process.
You can love funeral service without sacrificing yourself to funeral service.
Ready to Take the Next Step?
Because this mentorship is a personalized one-on-one experience, spaces are intentionally limited.
Applications are required so we can make sure we're the right fit for each other before beginning this work.
Limited spaces are available. Application is required for one-on-one mentorship.
3-Month One-on-One Mentorship
$2,500 Paid in Full
or
3 monthly payments of $900
(Total investment: $2,700)
Includes:
6 personalized coaching & energy healing sessions (2 sessions per month)
Telegram support 2–3 days per week
Journaling prompts & exercises
Access to Boundaries Are Sexy
Application required. Limited spaces available.
Not Ready for a 3-Month Mentorship?
3 Coaching & Energy Healing Sessions
$555
($185 per session)
Use within 3 months.
Photo credit: Cindy Ko Photography
